Bit of background, I live with my boyfriend of 5 years and recently I feel more like im going to bed every night with my friend and housemate rather than someone i want to fuck. Which has left me feeling like shit because i dont feel i get a whole lot of attention off him, and this has made me less inclined to be affectionate towards him

A few nights ago I got a bit over friendly with one of my best friends when he told me he liked me and i got that butterfly lovesick feeling. (im not actually interested in getting with my friend as im not really attracted to him and am also good friends with his girlfriend and i'd just rather stay friends)

But my quesion is, is it worth staying in a relationship like this, do things get better (and yes i know i obviously have to make the effort in this, I've been trying) or is all doomed once boredom has set in. we do get on really really well and i like the idea of a nice easy relationship where we just get along and everything is lovely. i dont know

are you still inlove with him? if your not...well i think you should leave. i thikn it is wrong to stay in this kind of relationship if your still telling him you love him etc,but he will sense something is wrong if your being different from say last year.
Do you really wanna stay in this kind of relationship?

most relationships get comfortable and...i don't want to say boring really but yeah....eventually.

but if you're not still sexually attracted to him then something is wrong.
also you're questioning it. that's not a good sign either.

you've been together for 5 years, that's long enough to know the difference between a bump in the road and something you can't get over.

I am still attracted to him, but im not sure if i still love him or whether it has just changed into a diferent kind of love. There is no easy answer really i guess, maybe I'll just carry on not being sure for a while more

you need to talk about it and work on being more intimate without the sex bit, then the sex will just come so to speak. Force it at first and then it'll begin to feel natural and if that doesn't work you'll have to go for the big chat. Maybe he feels like you're not being affectionate towards him and that's why he's not doing it back.

You know in your heart if you want to be with him or not and you're lying to yourself if you say otherwise. We always know

good luck what ever happens. I hope you're all smiles at the end :-) xx