When you go out on a date to a restaurant and then the bill comes: isn't it awkward? I hate it! I'm a girl and usually the guy pays, in my case the guy has always paid for me and I kinda expect him too.... (unless I knew they really didn't have a lot of money but the guys I dated always had a good job and stuff. I'm the poor student with no income) But I always go like "ah no.... let's split! blablabla"... but eventually he pays.

I just really dislike that part of a date. How do you react when it's time to pay?

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iv been out for a meal with my boyfriend only a few times, he usually pays but for example last weekend or whenever,we went and split a pizza etc and ipayed for half as it was quite alot...even though i only ate like 2 slices and he had the rest im not really bothered though,as long as it isnt a regular thing.
another thing i find is gonig to the cinima, you dont know if hes going to pay etc... but he usually says if he isnt.

yea. but that's like your boyfriend. I think at that point it's fine to split stuff...

but if it's like a first date ( or even a third) it's still kinda weird when the check gets there...
I always put on this whole skit of "I'll pay half" but I pretty much already know they're gonna pay any way... Maybe it's because of the kind of guys I've dated.

Phew. When I read the thread title, I thought 'the check' was referring to an HIV test.

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If it's a guy I don't really like and just went out for the free dinner, I have no problem letting him pay.

If it's a boy I really like and we're on our 1/2/3rd date I kind of get uncomfortable and tell him that I should pay my share, but they always end up paying for it anyway.

If it's the boyfriend, he always pays. Unless I tell him it's on me before we go out. But I'm old fashioned and would let him pay.

yeah I guess I'm kinda old-fashioned too in that way.
I'm just a big romantic and me nothing having to pay is kinda part of the whole "gentleman deal".... I want a guy who takes care of me and takes me to nice places

this guy once took me out "for dinner" to Panda Express. hahaha

i usually insist on paying my half, is this gauche?
i think it's because once my ex paid for the cinema and i thought it was a treat. a few days later he asked for the money back and got in a stress with me. hmm

I have this....thing, problem even, I guess, where I have to offer money. I have to offer money to the point where I'm embarrassing the guy and the only way to shut me up is to take the money I'm waving in his face.

I don't get the same problem with being bought drinks though. Thankfully.

I don't know why I do it. I don't want to do it. I'd much rather keep the money, especially if I don't even like the guy that much, but I hate to feel like a ponce or like I'm taking advantage. Or something.

Stupid me. Stupid me.

So your a tight arse then?

when i used to date, i would take turns paying, offer to pay, or pay the tip.

not really.

I've just dated guys who I knew could afford to buy me dinner...I politely did the whole "We'll split" bit, but really...I expected them to pay and they did...

I go dutch on everything with my boyfriend. He'll pay for something, I'll give him the money back later, or I'll buy the groceries the next day if we're cooking, and so on. Or we'll just pay for our meals/movie tickets etc. separately.

Over all it's pretty even. I think this is the way it should be since neither of us has a lot of money. It'd be massively unfair, I think, if he should have to pay for everything just because he happens to have the penis.

Usually my boyfriend pays, but i suppose it depends upon your other halfs financial situation- if he doesnt have much money on a particular occasion i'll always go halfers.

i insist on paying half

or if he pays for dinner then i'll pay for the movies&popcorn.


its very important to me that i pay my share

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same here. i feel like a jerk whenever people pay for me. i don't know if it's weird or not... but i just don't like to have other people buy things for me, even if i'm out with someone. i feel like it's impolite for me not to pay my share, so i make sure that i always do.

unless it is done VERY WELL, i will want to payfor half?
otherwise i feel like i owe them, but yknow if theyre smooth and nice and it seems right and flows then its always nice when someone pays for you

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if he pays for the tickets or whatever, ill get drinks popcorn and things in, which usually costs a bomb anyway. i like the nervousness of the first date though, ive got one tomorow

depends if its a new guy, usually the person who suggested the date will be expected pay in my view, but if its a new guy or i don't really like him i will ask for my own check, i don't really eat that much and I never get expensive crap, and usually water so I don't think it'd be fair to split a bill when the guys usually always order starters, drinks, a large entree, dessert etc...but if I suggested the date I will pay for it all or at least offer to pay

if its a guy friend that I'm taking out for his birthday or something special I will always pay the entire thing

but i've never had a guy come out and tell me to pay, lol my two best friends went on their first double date together in college years ago and the bills came and the two guys started splitting the total cost down to the last cent for everyone to chip in the same amount, if a guy was that upfront/tight I don't think I'd want to see him again, how embarassing

Guh. The only boy I've ever loved used to make us split everything right down the middle. I mean, I have no problem halving the costs and always offer money to the point where they can't say no. But we used to be sat in the back of cabs counting out the exact change to give the driver, with the same tip amount too! And he wasn't poor. He earned a damn good wage. I used to prefer putting things on my card just so we didn't have to go through the whole act of working out how much each of us had to pay in a public place.

Wanker.

i'm quite tra