what kind of behaviour or how many sexual partners is considered to be slutty? i'm just wondering cos we're supposed to be living in an era of sexual freedom but for women there still seems to be judegment. does having a one-night stand or a fuck buddy or just having casual sex make you a slut?

There's no definite criteria. It depends on where you go. Most guys think that 10 partners is the cut-off point for women. Over ten, you're a ho. Guys and girls call women hos to bring them down socially. Some places, just having a baby when you're not married qualifies you as a ho. Other places, having five or six one-night stands makes you a ho. Others, sleeping with five guys in six months makes you a ho. Others, it's the WAY you do it, not the numbers themselves (these are my types of guys, by the way).

Basically, you're not going to find a clear-cut answer on this one-- sorry.

If you're really worried about it, take the slut test at okcomputer to find out how ho-y you are. haha Joke. But really. You could do that.

The way I see it, as long as the man I want to marry doesn't see me as a ho, I don't give a damn. So, I try to figure out what kind of man I want to marry, who he sees as a ho, and not become that type of chick. Cos really, a guy won't marry you if he thinks you're a ho.

In high school my best friend slept/blew/made out with whoever she felt like. People's boyfriends, friends, husbands, whatever. She also cheated on all of her boyfriends by kissing, blowing, or sleeping with other guys. She didn't really bother hiding anything she did.
She was considered a slut, and she was totally aware of it.

I, however, lost my virginity first and slept/made out with just about as many guys as she did. But I never did it with anyone's boyfriends and never cheated on whomever I was dating. I was not considered a slut. Well at least, if I was, it wasn't as high profile as my friend. I never thought of myself as slutty because I didn't hurt anyone and never broadcasted my exploits.

So in my opinion, I don't think the amount of people you do it with, or what you do with them counts. I think you're slutty if you are constantly hurting people as you do it.

i agree with you, that makes a lot of sense. i guess it's all about what you feel happy with.

Obviously this is one of those things that varies from person to person (in terms of opinion I mean).

I've known people (male and female) who have slept with numerous people and basically flaunted it. Those are the people I would consider sluts. I also know people who have slept with numerous people and, while they will admit it in personal conversation, don't make a big song and dance out of who they are sleeping with, whenever they are sleeping with someone. Those people don't strike me as being slutty.

That's not to say that people who are open and honest about their sexual encounters are automatically a slut. I think it has a lot to do with the way they present this information to others, as well as the attitude they have towards sex in general. For example, if a person is brutally honest to their peers about the fact that they are going out clubbing one evening with the intention of getting a cheap and easy lay, that strikes me as slutty. If a person goes out clubbing, doesn't make any mention of their intentions to get an easy lay, but ends up quietly going home with someone, I'm less inclined to consider it slutty.

There is a cut-off point for me where I would consider anybody a slut, regardless of how they go about it. That stands at about 20 in my mind, at least for those in my age group. Age factors into it heavily. If somebody is 30 years old and has had 20 sexual partners, they're going to seem like less of a slut to me than someone who is 20 years old and has managed the same.

I've nothing negative to say about those who wish to have a no-strings lay with someone, because clearly it can be enjoyable (though I've never been down that road myself). It depends how they talk about it, and whether they're carelessly hurting people on their quest for enjoyment