i'm packing up my room a bit, on account of going overseas for 2 years

i've got a box full of his letters, gifts, drawings, souvenirs etc. it's like being stabbed in the stomach to look at it.

do i throw it away?? (i don't want to it was special) but i feel like if i keep it i'm not letting go

i mean he's got a new girlfriend now and i guess i'm happy for him. but i have all this stuff i don't hate him, we had an amicable break up


should i just shove in a box in the top of my wardrobe and leave the country?

what do you do with all this stuff?

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I think this is one of the hardest things to deal with. You want to keep the things as it is nice to have something to look back at. If you get rid of them, when all the hurt has gone, you will rue the day you got rid of them. At the same time, to have things hanging around everday, or a designated box that taunts you from the top of a wardrobe... it can eat away at you.

If you're going away for two years maybe store the box with shared memories somewhere and take one or two special things, a photo or some trinket or whatever with you.

I've still got photos of my ex on my wall, but I find letting go impossible.

I've still got a box of stuff from my old boyfriend who i broke up with in September, I didn't look in it at all until recently, but to be honest, when the break up was stil hurting me I had no desire at all to look at this stuff. I definately think you should keep it, because if you throw it away you'll probably regret it in the future, but if you think you will be too tempted to look at the stuff again any time soon the best thing you can do is leave it behind, I agree with Ava_adore, perhaps take one or two bits with you, but not the entire thing. & hopefully in two years time when you come back to it you can look at it all again & not be hurt by it all.

I would put everything into a box and leave it behind. I wouldn't take anything overseas because I'd want to have the time of my life, and would probably find it impossible if I was constantly reminded of my ex. When you go back, you can decide what to do with the box. I've always thrown away memories of my exes after a while, but they weren't important relationships in the slightest, so it all depends on who you are and who he is for you.

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now that I know that I'm breaking to pieces
I'll pull out my heart and I'll feed it to anyone.

i'm not taking any of it with me, no ways.


he deleted the blogs on his myspace that were about missing me. lol


i dunno, i just want to be friends and he's trying to pretend it never happened


i guess i'll put it in a box with all my other crap and leave it in the wardrobe

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you'll go to hell for what your dirty mind is thinking

I still have it all. Although there wasn't really much of it.

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Diving for pearls.

I want a lolly.

im going to keep all my things deffently, theyre my memories and make me happy when i look at them
sometimes i feel sad but i would never ever throw them away, i do think i need to sort my room out though, i always come across things on the floor like that, i need to get it all together <3
i would just collect all your stuff together, have a nice big cry, put it in a box tape it shut and never open it again . . . . . . .

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buy me some shoes any maybe take me for cola?

Like everyone else has said, keep them, some day you'll want to look at them. Probably any anytime in the near future. Not for a few years, anyway. Leave them behind. Besides, it's not like you won't remember him and everything you've had without the stuff anyway.

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"We believe that the best of America is in these small towns that we get to visit, and in these wonderful little pockets of what I call the real America, being here with all of you hard-working, very patriotic, very pro-America areas of this great nation," she told the crowd.

I've had this conversation SO many times recently - from every angle! You're going away which firstly I have to say is freakin' awesome! You'll have the time of your life!

OK, so, stuff. Personally, I kept everything and I still do. It just makes me feel good about me when I'm feeling low. I don't think it's a bad idea to keep it as long as you're not under the disillusion that you'll get back together which it doesn't sound like you are. Just keep it for a rainy day when you can can look back over it and smile that you had fun and have moved on.

Enjoy every moment of your travels :-)

All the best, xx

I keep the most POINTLESS things. I throw out all the big stuff, then keep the train tickets from our first date and the receipt from the restaurant we ate at that time we had a really good night and a photo of the back of his head.....

I don't know why. I don't even look at any of them. They're just stuffed in a box in the hallway cupboard.

well now after two years Im kinda throwing stuff away. i kept stupid faded flowers for two years, letters, ugly pix of him. I always had this "it was great times still, keep it as a souvenir" i had a hard time throwing things away, but honestly it's all kinda useless. and i had great times but i dont need pieces of paper anymore to remind me, I'm packing right now and it's being thrown away...except a few things..coz I'm like an old bag lady that can never get rid of anything. I get attached to just EVERYTHING.

I've kept lots of things from past relationships.

Put it away woman.
Keep it only in the way youd never go looking for your own naked baby pictures.
Memories you dont throw out but dont look at either.
Definietly leave them behind when you go away.

Like all, or most, of all these good people already posted, keep it all for posteriority.

Maybe (if you ever decide to look at it all again).

I would never throw that stuff away. Put it away in a place where you can totally forget about it. Just because you keep it doesn't mean you'll be seeing it every day or that you're "not letting go".

When & where are you going?

WHEN DID HE TURN INTO SUCH A CUNT

I still have my ex of 5 years's stuff, I thought about throwing it away because my and my bf now are really serious. I thought about burning alot of it as a sign of letting go. But maybe not

I kept nothing really. And I regret it. I wish I had.

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in my eyes, if you dont like looking at it, why keep it?

theres lot of things i want to throw away, but if i throw it away i get paranoid my parents would go through it if they saw it in the bin, lolz

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