Hey, i want to know peoples opinion of what i am about to write next. Please be completly honest.

I have been very close friends with a friend for about 3 years. This friend has had some horrible stuff happen to her throughout her life.a few years ago she lost her Mother. Anyways a while back we both met this guy. I knew she liked him and they were together once. However, as time went by i relised i was in love with him. I didn't tell her anything. But in my heart I just had to let him know. I told him and he said he felt the same for me. There was bad stuff going on in my friends life at that time so i told the guy we couldn't be together. But then one nite we ended up together. When I told her what was goin on she was so so deeply hurt and has not spoken to me since.

Have I done a horrible thing?

simply, in my eyes yes.

depends how much you love your friend, because personally i put my friends before boys always.

i can understand if you really like him, but still she has got more than enough reason to be pissed off.

im sorry, shitty situation.

I knew she did really like him but i was in love with him. The guy and I have been dating ever since. I knew when I told her what was going on our friendship would end. She isn't just pissed off- she is deeply hurt. She said I am not a true friend and ultimatly I choose the guy over her. And ultimately the guy choose her over me so it was complete and total rejection from two people I guess.

well i hope you and this guy make things work, it has to be worth loosing a friend over. and you sound like you want it so *shrugs*

thanks for your opinion. I do feel awful but there is nothing i can do now. I know she is really hurt, she has never had much luck with guys whereas I have dated quite a few. I feel it had to happen.
like what would ye people have done if you were in my situation?