i'm 22, i've only had 3 boyfriends in my life. the first meant very little, the second was an abusive psycho and later stalker, and this one i have now is where i need advice. because of my last relationship, it's hard for me to desipher what is normal and what is unacceptable.
he's 30..he's a great caring person. but he has this wierd honesty, that HURTS me a lot and he knows it does and continues to hurt me. for example, he points at girls and says "she has a nice ass". whenever i talk about a girl i know, he asks "is she hot". he tells me i'm fat, then he justifies is by telling me that he's trying to make me feel better about myself. he says how crazy hot my friends are.
it is really hurtful...is this normal guy stuff?? is he a complete asshole? am i just being silly??

What the fuck are you doing with him? Do you not like yourself? Say awful stuff back to him.

He's an asshole. You need to work on loving yourself more, people that love themselves don't let people like that say things like that to them. Please do something about this before you end up feeling even more traumatised.

Yep, he sounds pretty much like an asshole to me.

See under normal circumstances I would say that this is a total assholeish thing to do but when I was 20 I had only had one boyfriend in my whole life (sounds a bit like your second one ) then I met my current boyfriend and he almost sounds similar to your current one. He is always saying how hot random girls are in the street and he is very brutally honest but as you say i just say stuff back. He's done a good thing for me, he's made me less untight about things. Try saying you'd do one of his friends see how he reacts it's usually all just laughs where I am This is the way I feel about it if I look at a girl in the street and I think shes attractive what's to stop him from saying it as he's a man and controlled by his penis lol :P