How does one get over jealousy?

Sometimes I get so jelaous over NOTHING. I've always been like this. I go through bouts of it as well.. sometimes I feel like i don't give a hoot and other times I only have to think of him with an ex girlfriend and im close to tears. I sound nuts but im not.. I can't be the only girl out there like this.
What helps?

I am no expert cos i am going thru my own issues but it seems to me your insecure in yourself and you need to get confidence.

Take a few minutes to get your head straight and ask yourself "do I really need to get worked up over this? Do I have a reason to be worried?"

If there's something in particular that is really bothering you, however, I think you should talk to him about it, even if it is just a silly little thing.

I think it's mainly because he never really compliments me.. and a few times when were out i've caught him staring at other girls. One time his ex.. he was just blatently staring at her and when i've asked what he's doing he just says that 'the female form is the most beautiful thing in the world' and he's allowed to look and basically get off his back about it.
It just makes me really anxious all the time..

We all know men look, but to do it blatantly in front of your b/f or g/f is just plain rude & pretty immature. Don't put up with that crap. Since telling him doesn't work maybe you should make a point to ogle men when he is right in front of you.

Have you told him that you are unhappy because he doesn't compliment you very much?

Yeah i have but he just says that if he says things too much 'i'll expect it all the time'. I don't want complimenting all thentime but he's never said im pretty once.. and kinda makes me feel ick. I don't want to ASK him if he thinks im pretty!

I don't really want to ogle men.. wouldn't that just being as bad as him?
Bah, I don't really know whats up at all. I feel stupid about posting this thread now.

Your boyfriend needs slapping. And you need to stand up for yourself.

Putting yourself in a position to take this kind of shit from your boyfriend is what makes jealousy your only option. If you decided this wasn't allowed, you would be proactive, and wouldn't have to sulk. If you can't sulk, you can't be jealous.

I know two wrongs don't make a right, but sometimes men are thickheads and need to walk in our shoes and see how it feels. I mean I wouldn't be obnoxious about it. Just when he gets up in arms, say "well know you know how I feel" But I then again I dunno, yr boyfriend doesn't sound very sensistive and it would probably just make him worse.

You're bang on.

Yes, if he's not ever willing to tell you he thinks you are pretty then perhaps you need to re-evaluate your relationship. It sounds like you're allowing him to have an effect on your self-esteem... I don't think people get jealous if they have good self-esteem.

I got over my jealousy by doing everything i hate and now i dont feel jealous anymore. Like if my boyfriend was going out for days on end i wouldnt call i would just force myself not to call or when another girl touched him like only lightly like totally innocent i would force myself to stay in the room instead of storming out. Like i would just force myself into situations i hated. It worked for me but im not sure how productive this would be if you have a bf that needs to be kept under control

the best thing to do is to do something to take your mind off it. Go to a mates, cook, go shopping but do something cuz if you're just sitting around doing nothing your mind will race xx

Im very much a jealous person.

i am an innately jealous person but it really is a waste of time and will only push people away, it's something that you should just keep to yourself.

ok i hate to say it like this but when i was in a relationship and was being jealous as hell, and i was trying my best not to, the only way i got over it and i realized things about jealousy, is when i got dumped coz of it.

I think your boyfriend actually saying to you 'the female form is the most beautiful thing in the world' - and THATS why he is allowed to look- IS pushing it too far, I think he needs to be slapped. That was shitty of him, no wonder you feel insecure and jealous. I would have hit the roof if my guy said that to me I would have hit the roof. Then again, never take advice from jealousy from me, I am a WAY jealous girl suspicious of any girl who remotely glances at my guy. I need to figure out how to stop that and trust. But still, I don't think your guy should have said that.

probably because the boy wasn't good enough for you.

In all honestly thread after thread, what is with the gals on this mb putting up with shit-like behavior just because?

I've been wondering that too.

Low self-esteem. In my opinion.
You don't let people treat you badly for a long time if you have good self-esteem.