about your partner hanging out with or meeting up with exes or people they have slept with before?
DOES IT BOTHER YOU?

I think it depends on the relationship they had... eg, how long it was for, what was all involved, if they were serious. I cant tell him not to speak to her/them. If they flirted i would be alittle annoyed. But me and my current boyfriend spoke about our ex`s before we got together and i can remember him saying they had been split for over a year,but were together two years.Thats exactly the same as my ex so i kind of know what feelings he has left for her.
But it doesnt really bother me anymore.

Where are they meeting them?

Is it a bumping into on a night out/the exes being part of a group of friends so always being around anyway...

or is it on a one to one organised meeting......like for lunch or something?

To be honest ive met up with some of my exes while going out with people and i know in my head id never dream of doing anything behind anyones back, so it can be innocently done.

Is your boyfriend being open about it with you?

I suppose the way i think is that if you cant trust your partner then there is no point anyway. You cant stop them doing anything anyway.

I am maybe over-reacting a little. they might not even meet up, I HOPE THEY DON'T.
she is a very pretty blonde Swedish singer. they slept together a couple of months before we got together and became good friends and he flew over to Sweden to hang out with her for a week and in my head he really wanted to be with her but couldn't because of distance. he says that this is not the case and when her band was going to play over here he was going to meet up with her and hang out. I got upset (it upset me also that she was in his top 8 but not me. :shame:) and her plane got cancellled because of some terror thing and she couldn't come. PHEW.
but now her band is playing over here again and I am worried he will want to meet up with her and hang out and I will feel insecure and ugly and untalented and unswedish. I am so mental about this that I get cross with him if he even mentions the price of beer in Sweden.
I know how much of a knob I am being.

even just thinking about this is making me angry with a tummy ache.