about your partner hanging out with or meeting up with exes or people they have slept with before?
DOES IT BOTHER YOU?

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I think it depends on the relationship they had... eg, how long it was for, what was all involved, if they were serious. I cant tell him not to speak to her/them. If they flirted i would be alittle annoyed. But me and my current boyfriend spoke about our ex`s before we got together and i can remember him saying they had been split for over a year,but were together two years.Thats exactly the same as my ex so i kind of know what feelings he has left for her.
But it doesnt really bother me anymore.

Where are they meeting them?

Is it a bumping into on a night out/the exes being part of a group of friends so always being around anyway...

or is it on a one to one organised meeting......like for lunch or something?

To be honest ive met up with some of my exes while going out with people and i know in my head id never dream of doing anything behind anyones back, so it can be innocently done.

Is your boyfriend being open about it with you?

I suppose the way i think is that if you cant trust your partner then there is no point anyway. You cant stop them doing anything anyway.

I am maybe over-reacting a little. they might not even meet up, I HOPE THEY DON'T.
she is a very pretty blonde Swedish singer. they slept together a couple of months before we got together and became good friends and he flew over to Sweden to hang out with her for a week and in my head he really wanted to be with her but couldn't because of distance. he says that this is not the case and when her band was going to play over here he was going to meet up with her and hang out. I got upset (it upset me also that she was in his top 8 but not me. :shame:) and her plane got cancellled because of some terror thing and she couldn't come. PHEW.
but now her band is playing over here again and I am worried he will want to meet up with her and hang out and I will feel insecure and ugly and untalented and unswedish. I am so mental about this that I get cross with him if he even mentions the price of beer in Sweden.
I know how much of a knob I am being.

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even just thinking about this is making me angry with a tummy ache.

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How are you feeling now gelflinggirl?

I really really think in this case you have nothing to worry about.
I think you and boyfriend need some quality time when he gets back though by the sound of it.
Things sound a bit strained and with him being away you probably need a bit of reassurance which is understandable.
Its only natural you feel like this though. I think its madness though because i have seen pictures of you and i know you have a wonderful imagination and zest for life which im sure he adores. But we are all human and have our insecurities.
Wait for him to come back on Saturday night and just enjoy time together, enjoy each other x

It doesn't really bother me but it makes me feel a bit tense. More like an eek feeling rather than an I don't trust you feeling. It's never actually happened like a get together has been planned or anything but at parties and shit that I'm not at. I don't really know how I'd feel if he actually decided to meet up with a previous interest. I am quite irrational sometimes if i thought there was anything going on with anyone else there would be a beating

Your boyfriend should know how special you are, & he probably does... so I think you should to. If you remember & learn that then swedish musicians won't bother you so much because you will think you are awesome & deserve love & attention.

My boyfriend's a big flirt & he spends a lot of time talking to girls, & he catches up with his exes etc. ... but it doesn't bother me because I think I'm a really lovely person & a lovely girlfriend (I'll stop tooting my own horn in a sec) & if he is attracted to someone else and/or does something stupid then it's entirely his loss.

I don't know if that helps. But I'm sure your concern is one a lot of girls share, I just don't think it has to be.

aww. i know the feeling. it's awful.
i'm sorry.
i'd probably feel the same way if i were you so i am no help here.

you seem like such a qwerky fun gf though. would you believe him if he told you that he wouldn't sleep with her and all that stuff? you do live with him don't you? he would be risking a lot for just a sweedish root?

oh I don't think he would sleep with her, I trust him.
It just bothers me anyway.

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it's used to but it doesn't anymore. I think people tend to worry about this when they last confidence in themselves. If they've said they're meeting up with them they're unlikly to do anything. Just know, like they do that you're better. That's why they're with you and not them xx

or maybe he's just not with her because she lives in Sweden and it would be too hard???/
Maybe he will meet up with her for a drink and think "oh she's so pretty and nice and she can sing me to sleep and talk in her nice Swedish accent and I bet she wont run around in the streets crying in her socks" and then he will move to Sweden with her and tell me I can still live in his hosue with his mum and I will just sit on his bed and wear his t-shirts and cry a lot and feel sad while he makes Swedish babbies and says elskar day puss puss.

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Should I be shamed I know this is a myspace reference? lol, that is kind of shit but anyway, I know there's probably nothing to worry about physically, but mentally he might like to be with her but knows practically it couldnt happen for many reasosn, he has you, distance ect. ect. It wouldnt easily sit with me but what you gonna do? Just feel the pain and move on.....

do you really think he would do that? or is that your imagination and jealousy?

I don't know? I feel like a mental person at the moment anyway, I think I should probably run away to the seaside for a bit or something.

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.....and make a sandy blonde sand castle and pretend its her and knock it down

Hell yes. I don't have to worry much because many of my bf's exes are in Japan.

He went back recently and then, I did worry, because he had this one big-titted presumably cute as fuck Japanese long term ex. I assumed she must have been special because they stayed together even when he came back here. I felt very white and plain in comparison.

Apparently he structured his trip to avoid her completely.

He recently informed me that she is still in love with him and sends him messages all the time. The way he said this (half-bragging, half-wow what a psycho) now makes me more suspicious of his attitude to girlfriends than anything.