I've always seen a relationship as a time when people can hang out, have fun, get to know each other better and see if they want to spend more time together. However, in my experience and that of many of my friends, as soon as you say you're exclusivly with someone (in a relationship) it get's so serious you may as well put a ring on your finger. In a matter of weeks people are saying 'i love you' and planning a future together before they even really know each other. Why does it have to get so serious so fast? I'm not saying being commited can't be fun but why do people feel the need to commit that fast?

I think it's a weird trajectory that people get onto in the hope of Being Happy, & they forget that it's okay to go slow

'A guy what takes his time
I'll go for any time
I'm a fast movin' gal I'd like some slow
Got no needs for fancy drivin' when I see a guy arrivin' in love
I'd be satisfied, electrified I know a guy what takes his time

A hurry up affair, I always give the air,
Wouldn't give any rushin' gent a smile
I could go for any swinger who would contemplate to linger awhile
A lullaby would be supplied to have a guy what takes his time

A guy what takes his time
I'd go for any time
A hasty job really spoils a master's touch
I don't like a big commotion, I'm a demon for slow motion or such
Why should I deny that I would die to know a guy who takes his time

There isn't any fun
In getting something done
If your rushed when you have to make the grade
I can spot an amateur, appreciate a connesseur at his trade
Who would qualify, no alibi to be the guy who takes his time'

lalala

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said thanks for the insults and compliments
you'll never forget my face no more

to each his own.
it works for some people.