i adore my boyfriend. i truely love him to bits.
But he's so SELFISH. just little things. like.... i spent £20 on beer for him and then i ask for a couple of cans and he's like 'No fucking way i want to save them' and then if i buy 20 malboro lights i always give him half the pack. but if its the other way round, i can only have 'tokes'.
if im playing guitar, he snatches it off me to play it himself. if this was the other way round, there would be trouble.
i love sharing a bed with him. we planned a night together tonight. i was really excited.
then he decided... 11 o clock, when the only way back home is to walk in the dark.. that hes feeling rough and doesnt want to share his bed. and then he cant be arsed to walk me back home so his dad does. and im just thinking.. i KNOW he loves me. and i know he couldnt live a day without me. but for fucks sake. i'm taken for granted.


rant over.
pointless thread again. just needed to rant. anyone else have selfish boyfriends? im sick of it.

Dump him. Seriously.

thats the thing. sometimes i get so close to screaming at him. but without him im just nothing. he has his good points! but ive never met anyone so selfish in my life. i hope he doesnt read this.

wow. that's terrible. I would just tell him that he needs to change his ways or it won't last....

imagine you guys living together later on in life maybe and he's still so fucking selfish. that would be AWFUL

Gurl, what are you thinking? You're so much more than that. There's absolutly no point telling you that you should get out of this relationship because I know you'll always say that he loves you despite the overwhelming evidence that states otherwise - I've been there myself - but honestly, if that's how you see yourself when you're with him, you need to get out xx

bascally he needs to learn. behave like he does.

also step back from him. when you stop being so available boys freak out and start being better.

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you'll go to hell for what your dirty mind is thinking

as for that hm. not at all mate.
being taken for granted sucks
so
you know, if hes not as appreciative as you are, or thoughtful. and you dont like that.
you either speak to him about it and see if it changes. or
clearly you can do better

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no no never say maybe to smack bunny baby again.

Lemme guess, only child? I don't think they're actually little things. Being unable to share things with your girlfriend and not wanting to look after her are kinda big things hmm. Sorry, I think he kinda sucks.

Stop buying beer and smokes for him, and see what happens. When he takes the guitar off you say something! Or take it back off him! Don't let him walk over you so much. I agree with the availability thing, try to not be so and see what happens.

this is excellent advice! i've been in the same position, and i was always too scared to leave him because i knew he loved me, but in the end that kind of stuff just gets too much and if you let him walk over you like that it can REALLY kill your self-esteem. i learnt this the hard way.

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i think there may be something on my head.

he's only acting that way because you let him. seriously, dump him.

Something tells me that you share your stuff and avoid yelling when he acts like crap because you want him to still love you. If so- which I hope isn't-, the not-sharing bed would be an alarm signal to me. I think it's really hard for an egoist to ever change.

No way girl this is not on. Stop giving him beer and fags and if he makes you walk home on your own in the dark inform him that if he doesnt want to walk you home your sure you could find somebody else who'd do u the honour

Why do you think you are nothing without him?

i don't really know what to say, just get out. do it for yourself, you deserve to be treated alot better and you know it. you wouldn't have made this thread otherwise, tell him why your leaving him and hopefully he'd realise his mistake but never ever go back, cause then they think they can continuously get away with it, with whoever, whenever.

Why did you buy the cock beers in the first place? DUMP HIM!! He obviously doesnt give two fucks about you!

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he sounds like how my boyfriend used to be when we were together years ago when we were younger. he was so selfish and inconsiderate. he would tell me he couldn't live without me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, while at the same time doing selfish, thoughtless things like the ones you've described. looking back, he was just too immature to be in a serious relationship at that age.

From the way you post about him it looks like you really love him, but you need to do yourself a favour and step back from him.
If he still takes you for granted after that it will be quite obvious that he is too selfish to be in a serious relationship and really does not love you as much as you seem to think he does.
I know it sucks, but trust me, there are a lot of lovely guys in the world who would never treat you like that.
And also, you should never ever think that you are nothing without him... you really need to start loving yourself.

I agree with that, perhaps if your away from him for awhile he'll realise how much you actually mean to him and not take you for granted as much. Have you told him that you think he's being a twat?
If he isnt arsed that your away from him then its maybe time to think about calling it a day?

thanks you guys . i didnt think there would be that much of a response. honestly? i love him more than i love anyone else............
i know that sounds awful. but i do generally love him. LOVE him. infact theres not a strong enough word. but he treats me like shit. i dont know what to do anymore. if i left him he'd be so broken. but i feel like thats what i need to do to gain his appreciation?