Has anyone here actually gotten a restraining order against someone? I have been dealing with this psychotic boyfriend for months now and I cant take it anymore. He calls obsessively and shows up whenever he feels like it, banging on the door until I let him in. I want to go about getting a restraining order, but dont know how...I guess I can call the police station?

Don't you mean ex boyfriend?

I once did a placement in a childrens playgroup specifically for children on the child protection registers and one of the mothers had one against her ex and i think she had to pay, although I am not sure of the circumstances. I would suggest going to the police station and making a statment about his harrasment, the police can help you get a restraining order against him.
My advice in the meantime would be to change your phone number, and if your living alone get a friend to come stay for a while. Also when ever he shows call the police, the more records they have of his behaviour the more likely you are to get a restraining order. Oh and if you have a camcorder set it up by a window to film him when he shows, its all good evidence to add to the case.

yes, thats what i mean. In his head, I'll always be his girlfriend though




I really hope I dont have to pay..I'm in a spot financially as it is because of him. He was just here and I told him I was getting a restraining order against him and I had tons of proof of him being obsessive including his attempted suicide in January and him sending me suicide notes because I wont talk to him..he said nobody could see his medical records. I honestly dont think he'll come by here, for a while anyway. Thank fuck he gave me back the key. I've already changed my number once, and he somehow got it. I just blocked him on IM and e-mail but i'm sure he'll find a way to contact me. ...it sucks with the technology today there are so many ways to get ahold of somebody.

Up here you go to the court system to get a restraining order. A women's shelter should be able to get you going in the right direction on this.

You can get an exparte temporary order then long term one.

The order is basically he stays away from him and you stay away from him. I have heard of a few people who have gotten one then tried to contact the person who has the order in place. This usually end up killing the order. These order are for you if you never want to have anything to do with the person in question.

These are generalities and things may no apply, its best you contact someone like a womens shelter to find out the details.