I'm 15, will be 16 this fall.
I've been seeing this same guy for well over a year now, and we've had a totally stable relationship (he is my age).
His mom had a long talk with him about birth control, sexual limits etc like 9 months ago, when we started sleeping at eachother's house, and after that she allowed us to sleep in the same room.
My mom however didn't let us share a bedroom until after I had brought it up with her three times, gotten the depo povera injection and like 4 months ago.
We we're only allowed after I had gotten birth control, that was our deal (which was silly, because I can have sex at any time, us sleeping in the same room is just... it's nice, I like sleeping next to him, waking up with him and cuddle before we go to sleep, which I tried to explain).

The problem started with my dad. He is kind of strict, but I asked him if me and my boyfriend could share my room when he slept over, and he said that "it would be ok with him but that he had to talk to my mom".

And when they met up they just all of a sudden agreed (without even talking to me!) that we are not allowed to sleep in the same room anymore.
I feel so lied to, it's like they're both just trying to look like the better parent!
And they argue ALL the time.

And I don't know what to think, because my mom was going to phone my boyfriend's mom and tell her that I needed a separete bedroom, but haven't and gaaaah.
WTF, to do. I'm so hurt.

strange.
at least you did get to sleep in the same room for a while though.
I'm 20 soon and my Dad still makes my boyfriend sleep in the spare room downstairs
(and we've been going out 2 years!)

i can understand them not letting you sleep together full stop, but i think it's unfair to say yes, then turn around and say no all of a sudden.

i know what you mean though - me and my boyfriend probably have more sex when we're NOT sleeping together, when we sleep in the same bed, all we do is sleep. we're too lazy for anything else.

i really hope things get sorted for you <3

you're lucky that youre 15 and had once slept in the same room as your bf with your mother knowing it.


my parents wont leave me even hang out in my room with doors open

If I had asked to have a boyfriend spend the night when I was 15 my parents would have laughed in my face and sent me to church and gave me a lecture. I'm 19 now, and when I was home for christmas my mom wouldn't let me go to his house to watch a movie (granted he wasn't my boyfriend then but we've known each other since we were 15) when his dad wouldn't be home.

Sorry, but it's just something you have to deal with. You're incredibly young and lucky even to have parents who let you get birth control, or who you could bring it up to without losing all their trust -- if I had implied to my parents that I was even considering having sex, not only would they not have supported it, they would have decided they couldn't trust me anymore and kept me at home. Obviously that was ridiculous (and ineffective once I got a car) but still, you're young and it's your parents' decision what you get to do in that respect. Not letting a boyfriend sleep in your room when you're 15 is hardly an unreasonable parenting rule.