some of you might remember my dilemna a few months ago about whether to tell my friend that i liked him or not?

anyway it dragged on a bit until i ended up completely in love with him, and tonight he told me he's started seeing a friend of ours and i made a complete fool of myself by crying (i really tried not to) and now he knows about me liking him all along and everything (although the girl he's seeing had suspected it and told him).

i'm hugely embarrassed and don't know what to do. he says i'm the best friend he has and he wants to be friends with me forever but i feel so stupid and it's going to be really awkward from now on. plus i'm still really sad and don't know how to get over it

has anyone else been in this situation? it's so ridiculously teenage (i'm the age when a lot of my friends are getting flats together or getting married). and i've got this horrid fear that i'll be on my own forever

i like the girl but i don't know if i can see them together without getting all emotional and awful. also i'm a bit worried because she recently was seeing another friend of ours and she really fucked him about and hurt him.

If you value your friendship with him, be really careful how you handle all of this. Maybe a little distance will help you know whether you want to keep him as a friend. Then, maybe you can kind of sit back and see what happens with him and this other girl.

i do want to keep him as a friend- i've known him for years and he's my best friend. i don't want to come between him and the other girl and i know there's no chance for us to be more than friends

it just hurts and i need to fix it that'sall.

yeah,well, i am in a similar situation. I have always tons of advice to give to others but when it comes to my own situation, all my advice becomes so useless. I am a very intense person emotionally so this is NOT a situation that suits my emotional makeup because it is too much on my heart and my ego to keep a friendship like that, yet here I am trying to keep it. I have not done all that revelation stuff to him but I believe he is smart enough to have sensed it many times. I am older than you are and I have never been in a situation like this in my life before, so all this unrequited stuff is new to me, and frankly I hope this will be the last time. But to be honest I know mine is more obsession and lust than true love for him. I mean I like him but I am not REALLY in love with him. It is just a sick web of attachment and jealousy and resentment. Blah. Anyway, good luck to you (to me too).

i hope it works out ok for you tilki

i'm such a spazz, i spent the whole night crying and as soon as i think about them i start bawling my eyes out. if that doesn't stop soon i can't actually see how i can remain friends with him

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that's a real horrible situtation, i've been in a similar one and now it is so fucked up, but i'm not gonna talk about it.

I know this is trite, but time really does heal everything. Plus, you just can't know what the future holds. I hate that you're so distraught, but crying will help you work through how you're feeling. Keep us updated.