explain this one to me.

the bf is always ready to go and would want sex 3 or 4 times a day if i was into that.when i dont feel like having sex, im afraid im not "pleasing" him enough, and that he is going to jerk off behind my back in the shower or something and not even tell me. i know i would probably have a major problem with that if we lived together. i would have a problem with that because i love jerking off to him jerking off. watching him jerk off is really hot, and i may just be in the mood for that and not sex.

whenever we are apart and dont see each other every day, he will jerk off 3 or 4 times a day, quite often. i only know this because i ask. i cant help but ask, i really want to know because it affects me in knowing what his sex drive is like. i can go a whole day without doing it and not even really care about it. he seems like he is about to explode if he doesnt get his kicks. he says its because hes "bored" but um, yea right. there are other things to do if hes bored : \

it really annoys me because i feel like my sex drive is so far behind his and that ill never really catch up until im like 35 freakin years old or whenever our drive is at its "peak"

im 21 and hes 22 and his sex drive is insane. it gets REALLY frustrating at times because i feel like he has a hard time controlling himself and that im dealing with a 15 year old sometimes. i dont really like that at all. i think its immature

i don't think it really can. my ex and i were really off kilter and it just was a major point of tension. someone ends up feeling resentful, whether you're having a lot of sex or barely any. someone's compromising on something pretty big.

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sigh i have to agree. sex is a big deal.

do guys in my age group even exist who only care about it once or twice a day?

i cannot handle him jerking off 3,4,5 times a day!!

one night he had this jerk off session where he jerked off like 4 times in one night, all in a row!! i was like wtf is your problem, are you that obsessed with porn? i DO NOT know what to think about it! help please

i think "well, i might as well have sex with him, even though im not really in the mood" is kinda gross to do when you arent feeling it. they need to get the fuck over it and not whine like a little baby or pretend to go take a shower or a shit to jerk off in private. man i hate that shit.

really, if you're not giving him the sex he wants/needs, you're not in a position to complain about him getting off alone. decide which is more "gross": having sex when you're not 100% into it or him jerking off in the shower.