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Old 12-25-2006, 02:07 AM
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how can it even work with people who have completely different sex drives?

explain this one to me.

the bf is always ready to go and would want sex 3 or 4 times a day if i was into that.when i dont feel like having sex, im afraid im not "pleasing" him enough, and that he is going to jerk off behind my back in the shower or something and not even tell me. i know i would probably have a major problem with that if we lived together. i would have a problem with that because i love jerking off to him jerking off. watching him jerk off is really hot, and i may just be in the mood for that and not sex.

whenever we are apart and dont see each other every day, he will jerk off 3 or 4 times a day, quite often. i only know this because i ask. i cant help but ask, i really want to know because it affects me in knowing what his sex drive is like. i can go a whole day without doing it and not even really care about it. he seems like he is about to explode if he doesnt get his kicks. he says its because hes "bored" but um, yea right. there are other things to do if hes bored : \

it really annoys me because i feel like my sex drive is so far behind his and that ill never really catch up until im like 35 freakin years old or whenever our drive is at its "peak"

im 21 and hes 22 and his sex drive is insane. it gets REALLY frustrating at times because i feel like he has a hard time controlling himself and that im dealing with a 15 year old sometimes. i dont really like that at all. i think its immature
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Old 12-25-2006, 02:09 AM
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i don't think it really can. my ex and i were really off kilter and it just was a major point of tension. someone ends up feeling resentful, whether you're having a lot of sex or barely any. someone's compromising on something pretty big.
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Old 12-25-2006, 02:11 AM
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i don't think it really can. my ex and i were really off kilter and it just was a major point of tension. someone ends up feeling resentful, whether you're having a lot of sex or barely any. someone's compromising on something pretty big.
sigh i have to agree. sex is a big deal.

do guys in my age group even exist who only care about it once or twice a day?

i cannot handle him jerking off 3,4,5 times a day!!

one night he had this jerk off session where he jerked off like 4 times in one night, all in a row!! i was like wtf is your problem, are you that obsessed with porn? i DO NOT know what to think about it! help please
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Old 12-25-2006, 02:18 AM
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someone's compromising on something pretty big.
i think "well, i might as well have sex with him, even though im not really in the mood" is kinda gross to do when you arent feeling it. they need to get the fuck over it and not whine like a little baby or pretend to go take a shower or a shit to jerk off in private. man i hate that shit.
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Old 12-25-2006, 06:21 AM
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really, if you're not giving him the sex he wants/needs, you're not in a position to complain about him getting off alone. decide which is more "gross": having sex when you're not 100% into it or him jerking off in the shower.
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sigh i have to agree. sex is a big deal.

do guys in my age group even exist who only care about it once or twice a day?

i cannot handle him jerking off 3,4,5 times a day!!

one night he had this jerk off session where he jerked off like 4 times in one night, all in a row!! i was like wtf is your problem, are you that obsessed with porn? i DO NOT know what to think about it! help please

wtf. what do you care if he jerks off!?
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Old 12-25-2006, 08:25 AM
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like it or not he is going to jerk off.
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^^^ what they all said.haha

it can be really difficult being in a relationship where one person's sex-drive is much higher than the other ... i don't really know, i guess it's about compromise .....
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Old 12-25-2006, 05:23 PM
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wtf. what do you care if he jerks off!?
this is true. i have never understood girls who get sooky about wanking. SO WHAT???
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Yeah, why are you trying to be so controlling about this? Are you upset about something else and taking it out on this?
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this is true. i have never understood girls who get sooky about wanking. SO WHAT???
because if we are living together and i dont feel like getting all gross and sticky from sex, if hes going to jerk off, i want to watch and jerk off to him.

if he gets off like in the shower or something without me, im going to get mad because i like to watch

also him sneaking off and watching porn behind my back when im in the same house is really gross to me.

porn shouldnt be needed really. i dont even turn him down all that often.

i just cant get off vaginally, so i need to watch him jerk off, so i can jerk off to him.
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you sound stupid.
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you sound stupid.
im thinking so aswell. he has a horny penis, you have a depressed vagina. just deal with it.
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classic case: that guy doesnt know what a clitoris is and he likes porn because IN porn guys dont have to do much to turn a girl on
advise: teach him how to lick ur clit
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I have the opposite problem. I want sex 3/4/5/6 times a day. The boyfriend is willing to oblidge to a point, when he complains he's tired, which I find hard to believe since most of the time I'm on top doing all the hard graft....
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I have the opposite problem. I want sex 3/4/5/6 times a day. The boyfriend is willing to oblidge to a point, when he complains he's tired, which I find hard to believe since most of the time I'm on top doing all the hard graft....
Glad someone mentioned this, its true, there are alot of horny women out there who's drive is far bigger than their partners. They are instantly branded as nymphos when in fact when men are exactly that, they are "normal."
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Glad someone mentioned this, its true, there are alot of horny women out there who's drive is far bigger than their partners. They are instantly branded as nymphos when in fact when men are exactly that, they are "normal."
I am reclaiming the term nymphomaniac. I'm proud to be a nymphomaniac! I am a redhead and we are somewhat notorious for that...
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Glad someone mentioned this, its true, there are alot of horny women out there who's drive is far bigger than their partners. They are instantly branded as nymphos when in fact when men are exactly that, they are "normal."
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be happy that he's jerking off on his own when you two aren't having sex instead of him finding someone else to sleep with.
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