My mom hates my boyfriend she gets mad because sometimes I hang out with him and we end up coming back late a lot. And she gets mad because I forget to tell her that I'm leaving and all this other garbage.
She doesn't trust me anymore... and she never trusted him even though he's really trustworthy. She gets mad that I spend lots of time with him and keeps saying I should be working on college stuff instead.
Whenever I'm out she calls my phone like 8 times in just a few hours. And usually I turn my phone off because I don't want to talk to her or I don't answer it because... I can't. And then she gets mad about that too.
Not only is it annoying and an invasion of my privacy... but it's embarassing because if I say I'm going to be at a friend's house she calls their house to check if I'm there.
She's being a jerk just because a few times I forgot what time to come back home, and forgot to tell her where I was going or said I was going somewhere when I was really going somewhere else. But it's only because she wouldn't have let me otherwise and would yell at me.
I'm 17... so I'm way too old to have her always annoying me. But she won't stop.

sounds like mum got up to some mischief when she was your age to me

lolz no you aren't 'too old'. i understand your little bratty rant, but also understand her intentions. safety is such a major things, teenagers are so careless, and what about the people out there, the strangers with their pockets full of date rape? you can never be too paranoid. she just cares because she would like to see you grow up and go to college and all that stuff parents get weepy proud over. you got in late those few times, no deal to you big deal to her. what if you were bashed up on the side of the road? these may seem a little dramatic but thats what mothers think. she let you go out and you came back late those few times, so now she has to check on you because you couldnt come back early. deal with it. you'll be 18 (super 'old') in no time.

Maybe it's not so much your boyfriend but your behavior towards the situation. You said yourself that you don't tell her when you're leaving and you come back past your curfew, which is irresponsible.

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my thought exactly. its not like youre doing anything to make her trsut you. if you keep betraying her trust of course you arent going to get freedom etc.

my mum is becoming a bit uptight lately as well (i'm also 17) because with the whole finishing school thing she thinks she's losing me. that and as someone up higher said, my mum got up to some mischief when she was young. she knows all the tricks of the trade and we're so similar she thinks i might be getting up to shit. fortunately i'm not. im the most responsible person i know.

you're being very immature about the situation.

i think you'd find that if you have a little more respect towards your mother and her rules she might be a little more trusting of you.

i understand that it's frustrating when you want to go and do whatever you want, it's not like we all haven't been there. but seriously, you have plenty of time for that.

and lol at 17 being way too old. i had a curfew until i moved out of my parents house at the ripe old age of 20. and guess what? i was NEVER late. in turn, my parents were more willing to give when i asked for an hour or two later or whatever.

be nice to your mom. she only loves you and wants what's best for you.

you can always be too paranoid

your boyfriend probably looks like a thug.

17 is definitely not "too old".

to gain trust, be very responsible, and not just with curfew, with everything. for example, help out with chores around the house and always do your homework and get good grades. it sounds cheesy but it makes everyone happy.

id say 17 is the age to start gaining responcibility. As others have said..you have to proove your responcible and respectable in order to gain it. Suck up her ass abit... come in for the time your mother ways..and prove to her u can be trusted.

My thoughts exactly..........


My parents both worked nights when i was in high school.....curfew was NOT an issues as long as i was in by 3:30a (this was pre- cell phones, pagers, and call waiting in my household so phone off hook 'i was on the phone all night' so uncommon for a high school girl pre internet ; answering machine came on i was asleep or in the shower) So i never had any issues w being in if i went out i'd leave a note that i'd be back by x time.

I had no rules bc they couldn't be enforced and i was trusted. Nobody was ever over my house except a few best friends and that was rarely, all pot, cigs and alcohol were done outside my home, out of respect for my freedoms and not wanting to hear it from my parents, ok avoidance was my primary motivation

My point is i showed common curtosey (sp) and was trusted so my advice is to do the same. She is still responsible for you and when you turn 18 move out if you can't handle the 'rules' until then your ass is hers

Exactly. You knew you were totally fine, but she didn't. I'm sure there's always that horrible "what if?" lurking in the back of a parent's mind, and when a kid doesn't come home when they say they will, it just gets worse.

I never had a specific curfew time, but if my mum was expecting me home at a certain time and I was going to come home a lot later or stay at a friend's house instead, I would always text or call to let her know. And you know what? Because I always let her know my plans, she very rarely had a problem with me going out.

Even now, if I'm staying at hers, I let her know if I'm not coming home one night, even though I'm 20. Just so she knows I haven't been murdered and hacked into pieces or whatever. It's just considerate.

Oh, and another thing: In the last few years, I've learned that parents, on the whole, don't generally do things just to piss you off. There's often a good reason behind it.

in the usa its 18 most places for sex and cigarettes and drink at 21 is that correct?
just a general question.

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Said Hamlet to Ophelia,
I'll draw a sketch of thee,
What kind of pencil shall I use?
2B or not 2B?

Just try and tell her what you're up to and when you'll be back and maybe she won't be on your case so much.

My mum didn't like my ex.
Well she did when she thought that she was my friend but when she finally caught on to the fact that i was sleeping with her she wasn't best happy.

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Diving for pearls.

I want a lolly.

I know the cigarette and drink ones are right but i'm not sure about sex...

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Diving for pearls.

I want a lolly.

a few times to you may be over and over again to her - if you do it more than once or twice it may seem like you're always going to come in late.
i think your mum may just be trying to look out ofr you - she cares about you and wants to see you safe.

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Said Hamlet to Ophelia,
I'll draw a sketch of thee,
What kind of pencil shall I use?
2B or not 2B?

yeah i wasn't sure exactly what is was - i think it varies between states a well.

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Said Hamlet to Ophelia,
I'll draw a sketch of thee,
What kind of pencil shall I use?
2B or not 2B?

Yeah

They are all at the bottom.

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Diving for pearls.

I want a lolly.

ah thats quite handy - thank you

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Said Hamlet to Ophelia,
I'll draw a sketch of thee,
What kind of pencil shall I use?
2B or not 2B?