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*cherries darling* · #1 12-13-2006, 02:56 PM

here's the deal. One of the christmas temps at work fancies me. I know this because he is friends with this girl who is kind of seeing my best mate. Now, I had seen this guy around college last year and I yes I fancied him. I love the Gregg Araki teenage angst trilogy films and he looks exactly like James Duval crossed with a nice big slice of keanu reeves circa the my own private idaho era. At first when I heard this, I had assumed it was a ploy to set up some kind of double date thing. It isn't, he really does like me.
Now, this is all lovely except here's the small print:

* I am 21, will be 22 in the summer
* I am still in love with my ex (who by the way, was the more realistic age of 24...I say was, he is now 25)
* I am moving to Brighton within the next few months.

* He is 18. He will, i have learned, be 19 in february
* He is still at college
* We are in totally different places.

So, um...help! is the age thing a big deal. I know I am not the same as I was at eighteen in any way shape or form...bar my love of Placebo I suppose. I mean, I like the guy, he's sweet and funny and the whole loveable stoner thing is fine...but I do see him as a kid. I have to work with him tomorrow. On the other hand it is very flattering but I need a proper adult, not a teenager.

PuertoRicanHappyFan · #2 12-13-2006, 03:21 PM

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Originally Posted by *cherries darling*

here's the deal. One of the christmas temps at work fancies me. I know this because he is friends with this girl who is kind of seeing my best mate. Now, I had seen this guy around college last year and I yes I fancied him. I love the Gregg Araki teenage angst trilogy films and he looks exactly like James Duval crossed with a nice big slice of keanu reeves circa the my own private idaho era. At first when I heard this, I had assumed it was a ploy to set up some kind of double date thing. It isn't, he really does like me.
Now, this is all lovely except here's the small print:

* I am 21, will be 22 in the summer
* I am still in love with my ex (who by the way, was the more realistic age of 24...I say was, he is now 25)
* I am moving to Brighton within the next few months.

* He is 18. He will, i have learned, be 19 in february
* He is still at college
* We are in totally different places.

So, um...help! is the age thing a big deal. I know I am not the same as I was at eighteen in any way shape or form...bar my love of Placebo I suppose. I mean, I like the guy, he's sweet and funny and the whole loveable stoner thing is fine...but I do see him as a kid. I have to work with him tomorrow. On the other hand it is very flattering but I need a proper adult, not a teenager.

I'm 23 and the thought of seeing an 18/19 year old doesn't sit well with me much. I wouldn't put it out of the picture completely though. Give it more thought, maybe even a try and that age difference thing might go away.

ShyViolet · #3 12-13-2006, 04:02 PM

21 and 18 is not that big of a deal. It's only 3 years. I think you should give him a chance. You never know... he might be mature for his age and he may turn out to be a really cool person.

*^_^* · #4 12-13-2006, 04:06 PM

I don't see that the age difference is such a big deal but the different place might be?

Insomnia · #5 12-13-2006, 06:01 PM

I think that a three year age difference is an issue if you are looking for something long term. But if you are looking for a bit of fun to distract you from your ex, then why not? And I think it can work longer term- my friend had a three year relationship with a guy she met when he was still 18 and she'd just turned 21. And another girl I know, aged 24, has just started dating an 18 year old. You may have different lives in terms of work, experience etc but as long as you share some of the same views/sense of humour/perspectives, then it can work fine.