I'm having a bit of a dilemma. (sp?)
I have been wanting to travel around South America for the longest time.
I was single when I started planning this and really not planning to get into a relationship. I am now in a commited relationship and moving in next week. I will be living rent free and working a full time job so I will have the opportunity to save ltos of money to go in a few months.
I was originally planning to go for about 6 months or longer. I cut it down to three months when things started to get a bit more serious with Jonny.
I have told him about my plans and he says we will be together forever so it doesn't matter if I go away for three months but it does freak him out and he doesn't like discussing it. He doesn't have a job he can leave so he can't go with me.
I was planning to go at the end of March adn the closer it go the more that it freaks me out to think of leaving him for three months. Do you think I'm being silly? Do you think it would be even siller to sacrifice something I have really wanted to do for a long time bascailly because I'm scared of changes in my life that it may cause. Has anyone been in a similar situation?

ive sacrificed plenty growing up and i want you very much to go. make a diligent effort to include jonny while you are gone. write him a letter a day. collect things for him wherever you go. make sure he knows the entire time youre gone that you love him, just bc this relationship is new and you want it to continue growing. this is springtime for your relationship. let him help you plan, include him in as much as you can. if he doesnt want to help you in any way at least get him to try and talk about how its affecting him and love him through that. but please do go.

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thank you geek.

Honestly, yes I think it's very silly to cancel your trip just because you don't want to be away from your boyfriend for a few months. This is something you've been planning for a long time and it sounds like it's important to you. So just do it. If he loves you then he should understand. And it's ONLY 3 months. It's not like it will be forever. Why should it "freak you out" to be away from him?

If its meant to last it will survive alot longer than just 3 months apart; if not than at least you'll get to say 'I went and didn't sacrifice what I want and MY life for another person' take a poll on how many people have 'sacrificed' their dreams to make another person happy. If its been your dream to go then he 'should' (i fucking hate that word) be happy for you despite being sad about how it affects him. If he loves you then he should (theres that fing word again) be more concerned about your happiness, in this instance, than his own. Its not like your going to never return. Of course this is based on my definition of love yours may be different.

After all the shots you have to get to go to Africa and the cost it's not a decision one makes lightly. WHY would you sacrifice your dreams? Thats the part I don't understand, actually I do bc of my friends and now those people are in the process of getting divorced or already are.

I dont mean to sound harsh which I often do but if the tables were turned what would you do? how would you respond? People who 'freak out' when someone is on their own may have some control issues, do u think he does? I hope you go and enjoy it and share lots of pics, i've always wanted to go but $$$ has been the issue for me