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12-12-2006, 03:22 PM
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| | | What's wrong w/ me?? Okay. Well I'm pretty sure I'm bi. But that's not the problem.
I'm having my first ever crush on a girl, which isn't a problem either.
It's the girl I'm crushing on... we used to be really good friends but than we had a big fight and she pretty much made my life hell for ages.
Than randomly she made up w/ me. And I just went along w/ it because I don't like being picked on and it was a weight off my shoulders.
But we've become better friends online and in classes we're in together, and she's so nice/funny. And everytime I think about her I can't stop smiling!
The other thing is, she's really homophobic towards girls. She doesn't know about me or anything, but don't you think it's really fucking strange?
She says if she found out any of her [girl]friends were bi/gay she'd be a complete shit towards them, which is stupid because I know alot of her friends and mine, are bi.
But I don't even care about that either, I would never want anything more than friendship, and the only person (other than myself) that knows is my best friend.
Do you think I'm mistaking what could just be me thinking she's really cool, for a crush? Or am I just so fucking wierd for fancying someone that's been so horrible to me in the past I seriously wouldn't have cared if she died and she's homophobic.
& if she found out, my life would seriously be over. Haha.
Thanks. | 
12-12-2006, 04:15 PM
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| | | my best friend was like that a year ago, was homophobic, so i didnt tell him that i was bi, but i didnt have a crush on him tho..
the meaning is that things have changed, he has become older, and he is no longer homophobic | 
12-12-2006, 04:48 PM
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| | | I hate to sound ignorant, but what age are you?? Teen same sex crushes are part of normal development and doesnt neccessarily mean you are bi. Well you may know in your heart and maybe a little older but just let these things slide. Dont let people know, who are too immature to understand, they'll only make your life difficult for you. Its not worth it. Let it all hang out once you leave school. | 
12-12-2006, 05:07 PM
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Originally Posted by BleedingHeart I hate to sound ignorant, but what age are you?? Teen same sex crushes are part of normal development and doesnt neccessarily mean you are bi. Well you may know in your heart and maybe a little older but just let these things slide. Dont let people know, who are too immature to understand, they'll only make your life difficult for you. Its not worth it. Let it all hang out once you leave school. | I'm only 15, but I'm 99% sure I'm bi.
But you're right about keeping it personal once I leave school... | 
12-12-2006, 05:32 PM
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Originally Posted by oh suck I'm only 15, but I'm 99% sure I'm bi.
But you're right about keeping it personal once I leave school... | I'm 18 now and when we were back in school one of my friends thought they were bi and she was crushing on me. She made a pass at me one night when we were all drunk. We were still friends although i felt uncomfortable. Now, however, she says she was just confused. And we're still gd friends.
Hope that helps a bit.
It sounds cliche but it could be a phase. And 99% isn't sure enough to be positive. Wait till your 100% sure.  | 
12-12-2006, 05:40 PM
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Originally Posted by BleedingHeart I hate to sound ignorant, but what age are you?? Teen same sex crushes are part of normal development and doesnt neccessarily mean you are bi. Well you may know in your heart and maybe a little older but just let these things slide. Dont let people know, who are too immature to understand, they'll only make your life difficult for you. Its not worth it. Let it all hang out once you leave school. | dear god yes, i learned this the hard way.
i came out when i was 14, and the next 2 years of school were unbearable. | 
12-14-2006, 12:23 AM
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| | | ooh I wouldn't let that chick find out. homophobic people absolutely suck and it would be terrible if she made your life hell because of it.
I don't doubt that you could have a crush on her but hopefully you'll get over it? having a same-sex crush on someone who is not comfortable with that idea is a rather awkward feeling. that happened to me before with a friend in grade 8. she wasn't fully homophobic but was raised catholic and has always been a bit weird since I've come out as bi. anyways, I really cared about her and I think she realized when I was flirting with her and I felt really guilty and ashamed by it afterwards. which I really shouldn't have because now I'm positive that there is nothing at all wrong with having a strong physical attraction or love for someone of the same sex.
I'm 16 and I realized that I was definitely bisexual when I was barely 13.
Currently, I'm sorta in love with my bestfriend (who knows and we've talked about it and everything's fine...if anything I think it brought us closer together cus it shows that I can tell her anything) | 
12-14-2006, 08:36 AM
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| | | Nothing is wrong with you, at all. The people we are attracted to and the people we actually involve ourselves with aren't always the same thing. I am extremely attracted to a girl that is a friend, I know that she is bi, but I just wouldn't want anything to happen with her. Thats just the way my situation is. A lot of young kids that are homophobic are usually questioning their own sexuality or don't understand that it is completely natural, even animals have gay sex. Being realistic though, the girl is a homophob and you are a half homo, somehow I don't think you're compatible. | 
12-14-2006, 08:47 AM
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| | is the crush sexual seeming? coz i get these weird crush like things where i just think people are the coolest thing on this planet and therefore you know think the same way as if a had a crush, like get really fixated on that person. thing is i never ever ever ever seem to see them as anything sexual and would never consider a relationship with them. this goes for girls and guys. maybe, just maybe yours is a similar 'cool kid crush'.
don't come out, thatd be a shit at your age. don't try and get with her, thatd be REALLY bad and it dosent sound like any good will come from it.
theres nothing wrong with you at all though, youre only 15 im fairly certain this type of thing happens to a lot of people at your age.
wow i'm only 17 and trying to sound wisened.  | 
12-14-2006, 10:30 AM
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Originally Posted by PrincessTrae ooh I wouldn't let that chick find out. homophobic people absolutely suck and it would be terrible if she made your life hell because of it.
I don't doubt that you could have a crush on her but hopefully you'll get over it? having a same-sex crush on someone who is not comfortable with that idea is a rather awkward feeling. that happened to me before with a friend in grade 8. she wasn't fully homophobic but was raised catholic and has always been a bit weird since I've come out as bi. anyways, I really cared about her and I think she realized when I was flirting with her and I felt really guilty and ashamed by it afterwards. which I really shouldn't have because now I'm positive that there is nothing at all wrong with having a strong physical attraction or love for someone of the same sex.
I'm 16 and I realized that I was definitely bisexual when I was barely 13.
Currently, I'm sorta in love with my bestfriend (who knows and we've talked about it and everything's fine...if anything I think it brought us closer together cus it shows that I can tell her anything) | Yeah, I've known since I was about 12 - so I hate it when people say it's me "going through a phase" because I'm "growing up".
When everyone used to go on messageboards and shit and say "I'm 12/f/USA and straight, any boys wanna chat?" I was saying "I'm 12/f/USA and bisexual, anyone wanna chat?" ahaha I completely cringe whenever I think about that, but you know online dating was the cool thing to do at the time.
Anyway, my mum got an e-mail from aol about it and I was banned from the internet for years. | 
12-14-2006, 10:33 AM
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Originally Posted by KillTheLastRomantic Nothing is wrong with you, at all. The people we are attracted to and the people we actually involve ourselves with aren't always the same thing. I am extremely attracted to a girl that is a friend, I know that she is bi, but I just wouldn't want anything to happen with her. Thats just the way my situation is. A lot of young kids that are homophobic are usually questioning their own sexuality or don't understand that it is completely natural, even animals have gay sex. Being realistic though, the girl is a homophob and you are a half homo, somehow I don't think you're compatible. | You're right.
It's wierd, I kind of understand why she's homophobic. She won't tell me the full story but I think she walked in on a female family member having sex with a girl when she was like 12. Which must have been traumatic... lol. | | Thread Tools | | | | Display Modes | Linear Mode |
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