Where do you draw the line with your husband when it comes to female friend?

Do you mind that after work, he stops to have a couple(s) of beers and talks to her for a few hours whilst you are alone with a child at home an hour away? She talks to him about problems she is having with her boyfriend. He has failed to get home in time for dinner because of this.

The female friend and her two kids stay a couple of nights at your house and your husband and the female friend stay up all night drinking and talking together on the porch while you are asleep on the couch.
You wake up still on the couch while your husband is in the bed. Would that make you feel bad?

The female friend calls a couple of times a week to talk about her boyfriend. She calls you too but mainly calls your husband.

while drunk, the female friend says that "if you werent married to him, I would marry him"...should you take that as a compliment or something else?

i think they're taking it way too far.
i'd be quite angry if i were in that situation.

it's perfectly fine for them to be friends, and even to talk about their problems and such over drinks, but when it compromises his time with you and his family, then that's where it goes from being ok to not ok.

why the fuck is she staying over at your house anyways?

it sounds like you need to talk to your husband and put your foot down.

thanx for the reply...i would like to know what other men have to say about this

they probably like each other and will fuck soon, if they haven't already.
you're the only thing keeping them apart and they're rpetending to themselvs that they're just friends.

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you'll go to hell for what your dirty mind is thinking

thanx for the bluntness LOL

this question actually requires a response.

i'm NOOSSSEEEEYYYYYY.

put her number on call block

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If it bothers you talk to him about it, but don't go in guns blazing or accusing him. A really good way to fuck up a relationship is to tell the person that they should spend less time with their friends, and it sounds like they probably are just really close friends, but at the same time I think he should understand that you're concerned.

I'd agree that it shouldn't compromise your time together, but I dunno: are they spending this much time together all the time, or is this going to be one of those situations where we find out after about five pages of thread that she's visiting for two weeks from Outer Mongolia or something and they're just doing some extensive catching up?

i thought i was friends with her too. NOw im not sure anymore. She and her boyfriend/exhusband were supposed to come up together but he did not end up coming. So it was just her and her two girls........


they have been friends for 3 years i think and my husband has had her and her boyfriend/exhusband do work for him.

It seems like when Chuck, the woman's bf, runs off again to do crack, she is right there always talking to him, calling me a couple of times and I have tried to help her with my opinions as well. But when my husband stops after work and talks with her for hours and supper is already made and he is an hour away from the house, then that makes me feel terrible. Its seems like now he will stop to talk to Chuck about work and didnt come home till and hour and a half after supper....if its business, i dont mind as much but i do not like to be cooped up in the country with my son (sometimes causing a ruckus)all by myself to have him just eat, shower and go to be b/c he got home so late. OI VEY

this didn't really answer my question. i'm feeling very picky today.
so basically you're inviting them up for slumber parties?

In that case, you have a perfect way to raise the issue. Just the fact that you're cooking for him and he's turning up late is a bit much, regardless of whether there's anything going on. I doubt she's entirely to blame, she's probably just looking for someone supportive, but it's not your fault either so you have every right to at least mention it.

I personally wouldn't put up with that if I had a girlfriend that did it with a male friend

it already happened in october ...the only reason for the stay over is b/c our house is sooooo far away from town(their house is on the beach) that we would not want anyone to get a dui or into a car wreck.

a girl would have to be crazy to do that to you

i appreciate your time!

thanx

[quote=thumbscrew]I personally wouldn't put up with that if I had a girlfriend that did it with a male friend[/QUOTE

thanx so much

thanx lissie ....and anyone else.....thanx so much!

I've put up with much less than that. I have given ultimatums on similar issues and they end up crying and saying how sorry they are, but by then it is too late. I'm a bastard like that

aww thanks Lissie, I always find the crazy ones though