| Culture and relationships For Thanksgiving my bf and I went to Boston to meet his family. My bf's Haitian and I'm from Eastern Europe. He told me that the lady we were going to took care of his mother back in Haiti and saved her. This lady also has a daughter who is almost the same age with my bf. When we met them they all hugged and kissed each other and I was fine with that since I figured they met for the first time in years. But then, the younger lady touched my bf's head, too food from his plate and ate some, and when he put some lotion on his hands she touched his hands to see if his hands soften. I told him I didn't like it that they were touchy etc. and it bothered me. He said she is his cousin. So, I was confussed as to whether she and her family were friends of his or family because to begin with I understood that her mother took care of my bf's mom and they grew up together. I got upset and he asked her "Tell her, aren't we counsins?" Then I said something rude and my bf is still pissed saying that I disrespected his family.
I don't know if I overreacted. In my culture we aren't this touchy. We hug when we first meet and then talk etc. He, however, kissed her again in the morning. I don't know if I'm too insecure or what I just don't understand this kind of behavior. Do you think I overreacted?
EVen if I did I still felt left out prior to this incident. They all spoke in creole and I could only understand 5% of the convorsation. Then we went to some other lady house and that one gave me mean looks and they all starred at me as I was eating. I just tried to be nice and smiled but I felt uncomfortable. My bf drunk too much and didn't care to ask me how I felt. So, yes..If anyone can give me some guidance on how to deal with this, I will appreciate it.
Thank you
Luci_ |