[Prelude: I'm almost afraid to make this thread. Since the person I'm invloved with is around here. He doesn't really leave the music forum, so I think it's prolly not a big deal. And it's not that I'm saying anything I'd hide from him. I just might be a little emberassed. But this is just his hangout. This is my home. Kittyradio is MY terrirory.... right? Okay I think I've given myself the needed peptalk..]


What's been your experiences with "friends with benefits"? How does this typically end up working out in the end? How long does it typically work out? How does the "break-up" go? Not just opinions, cuz I can cook up my own scenerios. I'm curious in actual experinces.


Any yes, before anyone asks me. I do have real feelings for him. He does not. But I'm an adult and can handle it... most days

my experience is that which ever person has the "more than friends feelings" will get hurt
and that would be you in this case

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should i choose a noble occupation
if i did i'd only show up late and sick
and they would stare at me with hatred
plus my only natural talent's wasted

That's pretty much been done and I know will happen again. I guess I'm just wondering if there's ever a chance. How often does it turn into something real (we did date briefly before)? How often can people stay friends if and when it does blow up?
I really am okay with it being like this right now. I even think it's for the best right now. I just haven't ever seen this in anyone I've personally known to get a grip on it.




666th post. just let me be ghey about it! :P

hmm
well
how long have you been friends before the sex and then how long has the sex been happening?
that might help me relate it to a similar experience or not

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should i choose a noble occupation
if i did i'd only show up late and sick
and they would stare at me with hatred
plus my only natural talent's wasted

oh god
i'm sorry that must seem really kinda nosy and maybe you are afraid i will judge you
i didn't mean it that way
you can pm if you want
i have had one fuck friend, we had been best friends for around a year before we ever had sex, who i ended up to fall for eventually though i wasn't originally interested in a committed relationship in the first place
but by then i had broken his heart and everything went to shit
we broke up and got back together too many times to count over the course of ten years
he is not my son's father
i knew him before that and it was in one of our break up periods that i got pregnant
i hold a special place for him in my heart but it just never all lined up right
he finally got married just this past april

as for is there anyone i was w. that fell for me though he didn't intend to?
well thats where it gets tricky and is why i asked what i asked before
pm if you want me to elaborate in comparison to your situation

but um are you trying to decide whether to hang in there or move on ?
becuase i would say move on if you have the chance or ability
and then if its meant to be you can always get together later
don't hold yourself out for someone who doesn't want what you want

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should i choose a noble occupation
if i did i'd only show up late and sick
and they would stare at me with hatred
plus my only natural talent's wasted