so last night i was talking to my girlfriend and she lets off on this rant about how she smoked pot, got caught, and was thus grounded till school lets out in like 40 days or whatever. then i'm sad because i don't get to see her for such a length of time, however this turns into my being pissed at her for smoking pot, not that i'm some kind of prude or anything. i don't mind people smoking, but i find it to be a very unattractive quality if it's in someone i'm dating. plus she knows she's not supposed to be smoking or drinking for health reasons. so then i'm pissed at her the whole night and i wake up this morning by way of her calling me on my cellphone and she's sounding all happy which makes me feel rather annoyed due to the circumstances. and then she tells me she's BACK in the mental hospital again (that's the second time in maybe just over a month) so then i feel bad for being pissed at her the whole time that she's just been sitting in some foreign place an hour away from home, AGAIN.

i'm totally in the wrong here, aren't i? but i feel like i should take this as some sort of a sign, like we've been having a lot of shitty things happen in our relationship, and it's basically my first relationship and i don't know that it's a good thing.

i could see why you'd be pissed at her for smoking pot, some people just don't like it. and thats totally ok. i dont think you;re totally in the wrong. as for bad things happening in a relationship, you will get through it if you still like each other, everybody has their ups and downs, it will pass eventtually and maybe make your relationship stronger. i mean if shes going through a rough time with all this going to hospital, maybe smoking pot is just her way off letting go? (not that its a good thing really if shes mentally ill) hmm, well instead of yelling at her you should just tell her you don't like it and it's not doing her any good really. and maybe if you're calmer about it she might realise it hurts your feelings?

Turning to habitual behaviour such as soft drugs, food, as an escape is a very very easy, and very very stupid thing to do.

sounds like she needs your support, but that's a tough position to be in.

she actually hates smoking pot, at least thats what she told me. she's more into alcohol and manipulating her prescriptions, neither of which are any better for her. i don't plan on yelling at her or anything, i think i'll try and call her up at hospital to explain that i think it's an unattractive activity or something like that. thanks.

yes, she's always been very quick to turn to alcohol. and i've tried to attempt to provide some kind of an alternative but she usually gets pissed when i say something about her drinking. i imagine it'd be about the same with this.

well, i am trying to be supportive, i don't want to start any fights right now due to her being in the hospital. i feel that might be a little fucked up. it is rather difficult, though, because she seems to need my support so constantly. but i love her and care about her, so i guess i'm relatively willing to provide it so quickly.