Ok it's like 6am and I'e woken up and can't sleep.


Sooo there's this girl right, and she means a mad amount to me, like, we really connect and she agrees and we've been out but we split as we couldn't see each other and her parents were insane so it was pointless.

But like, last night (band night local gig type thing, first one in ages) is the first night in ages that we actually get to see each other (her parents = mad protective), and she just gets drunk, and hey, we're not going out - I shouldn't be protective over her right?

So I let her kiss like 4/5 guys and me and her best friend (drunk single girl..what you going to do). At the time, I didn't mind.

However, I've just woken up now, really really upset - the reason? I realised how much it was actually hurting me to see her kiss them in exactly the same way as she kisses me.

I kissed her best mate too, but that was quite obviously not as full on/close as her.

It was all so...hollow...so meaningless - I can understand that, she was UI, but the fact is it made me feel like nothing special, which I'm (fairly) sure isn't true.

I tried to be all logical and reasonable and a nice guy, but I've woken up hurt. I've lost myself. I tried to be a wise old man but ended up a confused, upset teenager.

Is what I'm thinking reasonable, despite the fact that we're not technically together?
Am I just being over protective?
Is it bad that I can't sleep because of this?
Does this mean I'm nothing to her, or is this just the alcohol?

This is so fucking confusing. I've got to wait ages now for her to text back, too




Teenage relationships are so lame :/

lame is definitely the objective word.

to some, kissing is more sacred than sex or anything else. Still there's a certain irony in the fact that her parents are trying to protect her so vehemently, when she could otherwise be in a sound relationship, in actuality their protection will drive her to be a total whore.

haha, parents <3

It's not unreasonable. If you're not the type of person who experiences jealousy a lot for no reason, it probably just means you like her a lot more than you thought you did. You like her, she was kissing other people, you got jealous -- it's a normal reaction, not something you need to overanalyze or cut down on yourself for. It sounds like you want to be together with her. And just because she was kissing other people doesn't mean you're nothing to her. Sometimes kissing really is just kissing, and if she's not together with you, there's not really a reason for her not to be kissing other people. Can you talk to her about how you feel? If she doesn't feel the same maybe things can't continue the way they are -- it's extremely hard to be in a close friendship or "sorta" situation with someone who you like much more than they like you.

Awww

I know how you feel about posting on here...I don't generally talk about my 'love life' problems because they sound so cliched. But they can be really painful and take up way too much time...like mine are right now, in fact.

She could have been trying to make it look like she didn't need you anyway because she was embarassed by what her parents were like. Or she could have been in a bad mood and just wanting to go against everything they'd say, to assert herself. Either way, she might regret it now.

I think it would be a good idea to talk to her, like awful_cherry, agony aunt of the forum, says. This isn't strictly what you've asked for advice about, but have you reached a definite impasse with her parents? Are you absolutely sure you can't reach some kind of compromise? My parents were really awkward around my ex-boyfriend (it seems really weird to type 'ex-', we split up fairly recently..) for a while and a bit suspicious, but after that they sort of 'tolerated' him and didn't have a problem when he stayed over a month or so ago. How old is she?
I really empathise with the overprotective parents thing.

if you kissed her best friend then i don't think you have the right to say anything to her about it all. if you're not together, she can kiss whoever she likes and it has nothing to do with you.