this is going to be one of those long boring posts about advice or whatever. you've been warned.

alright so my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and a couple of months and we are very serious about eachother and both (yes him too) want to get married one day(to each other, surprisingly enough). I have already told him that i dont want to live together unless we are married bc i know that if we just moved in, we'd probably never get married. anyway, i just turned 19 over the summer but my brain just turned 32, and he is 23. Because I changed my major, i will be in school for 4 more years and we both just want to curl up and scream bc that's so long away from now that we will be able to be married hence live together. i think it would be a bad idea to get married and live with him while i am a full time student and not alot of time to work hence no money even though i've been saving up since age 11. And he's not as good as me with money and doesn't have a paid firefighter job yet (he's a late bloomer i know ). he's planning on moving out of his parents house after like 1 to two years of working. I don't see any other options but i thought maybe someone else would... once i finish college we will have been together for 6 years, and most of the ppl i know who got married knew their s/o around one year or so. Its just driving me nuts cuz im so young. I wish i could automatically be 21 right now and then once im 39 i could be 39 for 2 years. any suggestions? i sure as hell can't think of anything except for wait 4 more years

Stop trying to rush things. If you truly love eachother, you will wait until the time is right to get married. Getting married when you don't feel the time is right will be a mistake which you may regret. It's NOT wierd to get married after dating 6 years... why do you feel the need to compare yourself to other people who got married after one year? You are not them, and your situation is different. You definitely shouldn't get married if you are not both financially ready as well as at the right place in your life.

you are sooo young to be thinking about marriage, seriously. why can't you just stay living apart while you're studying and then think about marriage/living together when you've finished studying? what's the big rush?

i don't feel young i feel like im 40. Its just the thought of having to wait that long that kills me. i know we can do it but i just can't stand to live in my house any longer. I won't move out until i get married either.. i refuse - gotta save money and stuff... i go to a county college so i live at home and i plan on keeping it that way so i can save my money, plus my boyfriend's the only person i would ever trust enough to have a roomate it just sucks bc i want to live together now but i dont want to get married till later, and at the same time i don't want to live together before getting married. i've gotten myself trapped in my own restrictions

i know lots of people who have been together for over 4 years and still no sign of a marriage.