What are they? Or if you think things are looking bad what can you do to fix it together?

no jokes. and it's hard. for most people. the key is for you both to live autonimously as partners. anyone who's been successfull for a prolonged period of time, please post. i'm interested.

Ignore their minor bad habits - pick your battles.

my boy and i are actually going through this right now. we both figured out that there were things that were really bothering us, so we took a break to really think and evaluate on whether it was worth fixing or not.

we decided it was.

like raeeka said, my problem is i really need to choose my battles. i was constantly getting on him for the smallest, stupidest things and i realize now how detrimental that can be to a relationship whereas at the time, i thought it was no big deal because it was just small stuff. but that small stuff adds up.

basically, if things are going bad in a relationship, only the people in that situation can decide what they can do to fix it together. it's going to be different for everybody. they just have to really take the time and put in the effort.

Learning that arguing is healthy and you don't have to agree all the time to be right for each other.

I think also that acknowledging that you aren't married or the exact same person, so you need to be less focused on staying together than relaxing and enjoying each other.I see so many couples getting caught up in the whole 'we WILL be together forever, this person is my life. period.' mentality that they push the relationship too hard too early.

Perhaps spending less time together and spending more time with your friends? Or spending more time together making the effort to actually do something new or different together. Stopping your relationship from being a routine is the best advice I can give in order to stop bad patches.