my friend lost her virinity and said it was quite painful she then asked me a question which was something that I never really thought about which was if I thought her boyfriend was rough with her ?? since mine was painful to it sort of left me thinking the same thing has anyone else had a similar thought??

umm, hopefully she would know the difference herself.

but for me it hurt- and it was not rough. if that helps.

It doesn't have to be rough for the first time to be painful. My first time was painful and it wasn't the slightest bit rough.

^ same here.

i agree; my first time wasn't really rough at all, but i definitely found the whole experience painful and sore. i suppose it all depends on what she believes can be constituted as rough.