hi.

i've got an account here under a different name but i wanted this to be anonymous.

when we first got together things were great but everything's changed. he routinely:

*calls me a bitch.
*calls me names in general.
*slags off my family.
*makes fun of me.
*shouts in my face.
*looks intimidatingly at me.
*shoves my parents' divorce in my face.
*'breaks up with me.'
*slags off my friends.
*embarrasses me in front of my friends.

that's not everything but it's most of it. he also shoves me and slams doors.

on friday, we got back from a meal out to celebrate me getting into uni. he made me cry downstairs. he got worried that his parents would see so he shoved upstairs. i was tripping and falling. when i got to the top he grabbed me by the back of the neck and puched me into his room and onto the bed where he started to shout at me and call me names.

on sunday he stole my phone to read my messages. i lost it because everything had gotten too much so i tried to physically force him to give it back. i know it was wrong but i also know that my behaviour was not to intimidate him, it was to try and get some power back.

anyway, later that evening. things got out of hand. i broke up with him and he started shoving me about. he grabbed me from behind and dug the fingers of both hands in the my ribs and stomach which still feels sore. he grabbed and twisted my wrists and i banged my head. he then threatened to kill himself if i left. so i stayed. i know it was wrong and i'm pathetic but i love him.

i love him but i don't know what to do. when things are good, we get along so well but i'm scared this could get worse. i just found out that his ex has a restraining order against him because he wouldn't leave her alone after they broke up. he can be wonderful but there's this scary side of him. i don't know what i want you to say. maybe i just wanted to geth this out. i'm pathetic because i won't leave him. i care so much for him. i want to help him because i think he can change. his dad beats his mum and i think this has influenced him.

i know you'll be angry with me about this because i should be a stronger girl. i just wanted to get all of this out because it's all been confused in my head.

xx

hun... get out now... you dont deserve that at all... so please... leave!!

either hes some shag or youre a glutton for punishment.
i said ditch him by the end of the first para

I'd say talk to his parents... and break up with him. Get like a friend to help you out in case he gets too violent.
You're too good to be treated like that.

This sounds familier. I think I remember you posting under a different user name ago about a month regarding something very similar.