so before i start, i should point out that we're not actually related, he's just one of those 'friends of the family' types that ends up being called uncle.
so i've never really liked this bloke, but i'd go and visit him and my 'aunty' every few weeks because they're insistent on sending me money in the post, which is a bit odd to begin with. i don't mind the aunty at all, she's lovely and normal but knows nothing of the situation. over the past few months, my uncle has started groping me. usually i just walk away or something because i'm too embarassed and shocked to actually say anything. he kept sending the money in the post, and my mother would prompt me to go round and thank them but i started to refuse to, so we came to an agreement and i don't go on my own anymore, my mum comes with me and i'm not left alone with him. then the other day he was on his own with me for like, 30 seconds, and he actually forced himself on me and kissed me. (did i add that he's 81? yeah) so i push him off, but he thinks its hilarious. i leave and tell my mother to tell them that i'm not going there again.
but then uncle knobhead starts calling my mum EVERY DAY on her mobile, pestering her to make me go round to their house. after a fornight of this, i went round with my mum yesterday just so they'd leave her alone for a while. we were talking, and it was fine (no groping!), but then my aunty interrupted him in conversation a couple of times, and he just absolutely ****ing flipped at her, shouting infront of all of us that one day he'll knock her down so hard that she'll never get up again, and looks at me and my mum as if we're meant to agree or something! so we make our excuses and leave, so absolutely horrified and shocked that we couldn't say anything.

i want to tell them that i never want to go there again. but i'm terrified that if i tell this to them, my aunty will be heartbroken and shout at him for the groping/sexual stuff (she doesn't know about it) and then he'll carry out his threat of hurting her, or worse. i have absolutely no idea what to do, whether to just put up with it and still visit them or take the risk of him doing something stupid. i know she severely dislikes him, she only married him because he threatened to kill himself if she didn't, he's going mad and like, starts fights in shops and stuff, and has been known to knock her about before. i've considered getting him sectioned or something so he can't be anywhere near her but it seems a huge step and a bit drastic. i really can't think of any other options though.

does your mum know that he's been groping you? if not, you should definitely tell her first.

yeah, she does. she says he does it to her too but we've got to just put up with it for the sake of my aunty.

i don't think you should have to, but i guess there's not much else you can do short of contacting the police, which would cause a lot of trouble for your aunty.i feel so sorry for her, it must be such an awful situation to be in.is tehre any way you can talk to her on her own and see if she wants to take action against him? because if she doesn't want to leave him, there's not much you can do.

i honestly don't think she could leave him for financial and health reasons. they live in a council house and i get the impression that 75% of their income comes from his private pension and disability allowances.
i don't think she'd be able to hack it either because shes very frail, she can't really walk without a frame and shes in a poor state to be honest.
if i contacted the police theres still no proof. i think it would just cause more fuss than its worth. plus if i reported it or my mum there'd be more problems - the local police hate my family, if our surname was involved in any way they'd purposefully **** up the case for us.