ok so my dad is an alcoholic, and we don't have a relationship, we live in the same house, etc but we don't talk to each other. So he had to have surgery for some stones, and they told him his liver is really hurt but it's not damaged. If he stops drinking he still has a chance to be healthy and save his life.

He had the surgery, he was sober for like 2 weeks and now he's home and he is drinking again. I think it's retarded.

Don't feel sorry for me because as callous as it may seem I don't feel bad. I don't want anything bad to happen to my dad but he wasn't around in the house for two weeks and I really didn't miss him at all. I realize he doesn't give me anything, he doesn't give me love, or money or conversation, I mean nothing. I don't need him. And that is a scary thought. I mean to be able to say I don't need my dad, not even on an emotional level, I don't need him. It makes me feel sad too, even though I don't need him at all, I don't want him to die.

I don't understand this situation. He obviously has a death wish. But why?? what is so horrible about his life?? he's always had everything. Am I THAT much a disgrace?? just because I'm gay?? I can't believe it's because of it, can it be that devastating?? or is it my mom?? she has been an excellent wife and mother considering the circumstances. I mean me and my brothers, we don't do drugs, I just don't get it. I just don't know why he wants to die, what could be so horrible that he can't be around anymore. Maybe it's the realisation that he wasted his life and we've learned to live without his support and now he can't take it, but who's fault is it?? it's just a very retarded situation and I'm not sure what I can do. I just don't meddle in it.

It's not your fault if your father doesn't want to stop drinking.

it's no one's fault but his own. we all make our own choices.

it's his fault and no one else's. my mum was an alcoholic too. fortunately she did stop drinking when it badly damaged her health, but that was long after i had left home. the damage was already done

i understand what you mean about not needing him, i feel the same way

Alcoholics either
A) die from disease
B) get help