What's a good way to tone the stomach area/flatten a little more and keep your booty looking nice and so i dont get that extra junk ever on my thighs? do you girls work out with videos? any good books? what can you tell me please?

It really depends on genetics as to how and where your body stores fat reserves.
Best to get an overall body workout. Spot targeting fat is a myth.

A quick buttock exercise would be to face a wall for support and lift you leg backwards. Repeat with other. You could add some ankle weights and increase the reps after a bit. A better one would be a stair stepper.

Walk on the treadmill at a moderate speed -- 3-4 mph -- but with the incline as far up as it'll go. You'll be working as hard as someone jogging on a flat treadmill, and the incline is great for your butt. You can increase the size of your butt by building up the muscle under it. Do squats and lunges (and add a leg lift -- just lift a leg straight behind you after you come up -- to make them more challenging). Getting on all fours, sticking one leg out behind you, and lifting that leg up and down is good. Also yoga -- specifically sun salutations -- is good for your butt.

Whats the name of the Yoga pose where you're sitting and crossing one leg in front of you and the other is extended behind you and then you lean forward? That really stretches the area.

Pigeon pose maybe? That's one of my favorite poses. The stretch is really intense and it feels soooooo good. I could sleep like that.