How ironic? I work in a psychiatric hospital, where I am suppose to be working in a team which wants to promote good mental health and treat people who are suffering acute and intense mental health issues. Isnt it hypocritical when I find out that on a ward there is bullying amongst the team? when work colleagues are being made to feel shit by newly qualified psychiatric nurses?

I was bullied at school and it damaged me. I am still mentally scared by this and as I start - at the age of 26 - to put these issues behind me and start to think that I am not shit I find out that a work colleague of mine - he works on a different ward to me - is being bullied. I am really disgusted by this because of where we work and what we try to promote. I want to do something about it too.

Now, my place of work has always been a team of assholes. Ive been there a year and I found it hard to become apart of an ingroup but I somehow manage to fuck it and get on with it. like I once made a thread a while back about how my work colleagues were going on at me for wearing black.

I want to do something about this problem. I was told via another work colleague about the issue and I think I need to talk to the victim and see whether this is truth but I also think I should talk to the managers. The managers never have time to speak to me. I always have felt like they dont like me etc and I am not worthy of the job but fuck them they need to address this.

how should I do this?
have you been bullied by people at work and how did you manage it?

I also fear of being bullied myself, I wonder if it will bring back the bad thoughts of 10 years ago? Maybe them going on about my black clothes was a sign of bullying and me going shopping for colourful tops is a sign of me conforming. i just dont give a fuck about work clothes as i work in a hospital, clearing up piss, shit and blood and dirty razors so why would I want to wear designer gear to it? not that I have much designer stuff.

anyway back on topic..advice..should I write an anon letter to my manager saying whats happening? Im not sure.

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I'd write a letter but I wouldn't sign it anonymously. I'd sign my name proudly. You already know there is presently abusive behavior amongst your fellow employees. You might gain respect and appreciation. Don't do it to gain respect or attention for it, though. Just do it to be honest about your feelings and your concerns.

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Bullied? Not unless they want some free after hours 'dental work.'

my mom gets bullied at work

I did an evaluation on a geriatric home today with my supervisor and I had to report bullying. I got pos feedback for it so I say go for it with the letter.

One bitch at my work likes to harangue people about various issues dear to her heart. It's not bullying, at least not yet, but I hate to think how she would act towards me - or many other staff members - if I cared enough about her conversations to tell her what I really thought.

I think she has a fairly short fuse. She nearly erupted once when I suggested she could perhaps remind me about some bollocks event to which she was demanding I go, and which I clearly wasn't interested in attending. I think I might really try to be honest with her in my last week before I leave.

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actualy [sic] I have quite a blessed life if I'm honest. I have many people to love, hate few and have few money problem's [sic].... What more does a person need? Oh yeah and I have some kind of humbleness unlike you of course ^_^ ~ CarefulCarpenter

work place mobbing. It's common but should not be acceptable. If you've been made to feel that others think you should not be there or treat you as though you are underqualified or make your life hard at work, outcast you...chances are your brain isn't just making it up.

Alot of times, work place mobbing is a tactic used to get someone to quit so that a company can't be held responsible. I've been through this before where it happened on the very first day!

Turns out the manager found someone who was a friend of a friend and wanted me to leave so that he could hire the friend of the friend so they deliberately made my day very uncomfortable and scolded me for any little wrong thing that happened.

Team work doesn't mean what you think it means. It means you must fit in, blend in both physically and mentally with the staff or you are not on their team.

Alot of people who don't fit in with the norm are having much more problems keeping jobs or even getting hired. This is a form of discrimination but not recognized as discrimination.

Team work used to be about helping out your co-workers and being friendly. It's no longer that definition.

If you have a different look, mannerisms or don't quite fit in, you are not a team player.

Describe your friend, the one who is being bullied? Do you think this description fits him at all?

that *is* bullying. i have this article. oh damnit. i saved it somewhere. too much efforts to go through my delicious right now...

okay found it: http://www.nytimes.com/2008/03/25/he...3Q&oref=slogin

Is this an NHS psych hospital? Are you part of a union? If so, get someone there to act in the capacity of an advocate.

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That guy is ok now but the whole team is just shit. There are about 7 people who are cunts and make it hard for everyone else. They make me feel like an idiot. not much you can do really because they wont ever change.

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There's a guy at my work who is blatantly being bullied by a senior staff member, and it's all completely unprofessional, but conducted in a manner that makes it look to outsiders like it's just part of the regular process of appraisal. But it ain't. It's so underhanded, and quite upsetting that they'd do it - I expected better.

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actualy [sic] I have quite a blessed life if I'm honest. I have many people to love, hate few and have few money problem's [sic].... What more does a person need? Oh yeah and I have some kind of humbleness unlike you of course ^_^ ~ CarefulCarpenter

Bullying is an essential part of the employment experience.

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Yeah, but they're acting all illegally and shit. It's an eye-opener. I think union reps will be getting involved. "Mediation" is not a sexy word.

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actualy [sic] I have quite a blessed life if I'm honest. I have many people to love, hate few and have few money problem's [sic].... What more does a person need? Oh yeah and I have some kind of humbleness unlike you of course ^_^ ~ CarefulCarpenter

"Mediation" is a sexier word than "industrial action". Plus, I think you'd be surprised just how far an employer is legally authorised to go, in terms of disciplinary action, etc.

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This is the edumacation industry. New Zealand's last bastion of union power. Their rights are shitt all. Ours are overprotected, if anything, which I am somewhat ideologically opposed to, but hey - it'll serve me well in my current job.

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actualy [sic] I have quite a blessed life if I'm honest. I have many people to love, hate few and have few money problem's [sic].... What more does a person need? Oh yeah and I have some kind of humbleness unlike you of course ^_^ ~ CarefulCarpenter

I find that a good head-lock on an employee can oft provide the motivation and stimulus that one needs to get the job done.

It couldn't possibly be that different. My direct involvement with teachers and industrial action. Well. However, aside from all that. Why are teachers the most horrid beasts to deal with? I know why, actually. Don't answer. I bet you will though.

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Teachers can be pretty stubborn, and rather precious, and at least in New Zealand few workforces know their rights better, or have more rights.

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I escaped somehow. Let's go

actualy [sic] I have quite a blessed life if I'm honest. I have many people to love, hate few and have few money problem's [sic].... What more does a person need? Oh yeah and I have some kind of humbleness unlike you of course ^_^ ~ CarefulCarpenter

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