Originally Posted by gelflinggirl
yeah, ****. google can totally be your enemy if you're having an abortion.
so can everyone else in your life, and at your medical care center/hospital.
i can't tell you the number of assholes and mean, judgmental looks i got. so if she can take someone with her, as an advocate, that is really, really for the best. someone not emotionally attached to the situation (like the boyfriend).
i'd wait until the dr. visit and see what they say. 24 weeks is late, but not insane to end a pregnancy. she might not even BE 24 weeks (that's often just an estimate) so wait until she's had a proper ultrasound and been checked out by a doctor.
it is well within her rights and limits to end a pregnancy she knows hasn't been healthy.
it is also within her rights and within the realm of sanity for her to chose to end a pregnancy she can't handle the results of.
and anyone who's on the adoption train needs to talk to a social worker and get a reality check on what that hot mess and the often sketchy situations it puts the most at-risk children in, and get a reality check.
and anyone who's pro-life needs to realize that nobody
is excited about getting an abortion. nobody
is really relieved, nobody
is happy. ending a pregnancy is horrible and sad, but often less horrible and sad than that child's life would have been.
and at the end of the day, all you can do is pick the lesser of two evils.
have a kid you don't want/aren't ready for/can't afford or support OR end a pregnancy.
both are horrible.
but if it helps, i had a complicated one, and i came out just fine.
no guilt, no shame. i made the right choice.
granted i was nowhere near 24 weeks, but.... you can come out of an abortion and not be ****ed up.