Oh Bollocks!!

Carly89 · #1 10-08-2008, 03:11 AM

Im pregnant.. now what do i do? totally unplanned and slightly scared.
i can't tell anyone i know yet cause it's too soon.
i need a kittradio mummy to give me some advice.. thumps? x

Ronette · #2 10-08-2008, 03:22 AM

Abortion?

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Keep it?

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Not a lot else to decide really is there?

Carly89 · #3 10-08-2008, 03:42 AM

you absolute, coldhearted, tosser!
im not asking for the fate of my unborn to be decided am i? im asking for someone to talk to me, a mum, who can give advice on my worries and questions. im asking because my mother is absent. i cant discuss this with someone in person ye, i want to wait till the first 2-3 months are over so i know it's safe.

miss_scarlet · #4 10-08-2008, 05:32 AM

so youre gonna keep it?

Mikerochip · #5 10-08-2008, 05:41 AM

Seems so?

BleedingHeart · #6 10-08-2008, 05:44 AM

Carly, do I remember correctly that you are already a mother?! Or was that someone else?! You poor dear, at this early stage, either through yourself and the people closest to you or a non-judgmental counceler it would be good to make a decision to which road you go down, the later it is left the harder it is both physically on you and mentally if you are not planning to carry to term.
Look at your resources and start planning, something you'll need to do no matter what path you take. If you know who the father is you amy want to involve him in the decision (keep or adoption) on what happens to the child and ask him to contribute when the time comes. If you are planning to keep it to full term, you have the luxary of waiting to talk, but I think it would really help if you could talk confidentially to a professional in the early weeks before the 2-3 months you taked about. Simply because I think a one on one would probably be more beneficial to you than a few words on screen from kittyradio xx

Carly89 · #7 10-08-2008, 05:55 AM

im not a mother no.. i meant to explain this after my picture in the september thread.. shes my baby cousin, i didnt mean it as in my baby... i just call her my babe/ baby.. northern thing maybe..

anyway, that aside. im with the father, we live together, we are happy... however.. we were hoping to be selfish and live the next few years carefree and do whatever we wanted to. this has kinda thrown a spanner in the works, so to speak.
i was hoping to maybe have a one on one with a mother from KR purely because they cant judge and can help me come to terms with the initial shock of it all! i live 150 miles from my mother, my partners mother is in america, plus it's too early to talk yet, so i was just looking for a pair of ears really.

Carly89 · #8 10-08-2008, 05:58 AM

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Originally Posted by miss_scarlet

so youre gonna keep it?

yes im keeping it, who am i to play god?

we have made our mistake and now we have to be responsable and stand up to it.

trace · #9 10-08-2008, 06:16 AM

in the bath and body forum? are we planning a waterbirth?

BleedingHeart · #10 10-08-2008, 06:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Carly89

i was hoping to maybe have a one on one with a mother from KR purely because they cant judge and can help me come to terms with the initial shock of it all!

I really hope any non-mothers wouldn't judge you!!

I'll kick their arse for you if you want. Congratulations firstly, I'm sorry I can't be of much help with personal experience because I'm not a mom but I bet you're over whealmed with kinds of feelings. Hopefully Calalove can pop her head round the thread soon x

Carly89 · #11 10-08-2008, 06:39 AM

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Originally Posted by trace

in the bath and body forum? are we planning a waterbirth?

if there are no drugs involved im not interested.. it's enough i have to push an object the size of a watermelon out of my privates, let alone do it sober!

in all honestly though, so long as we are all happy and healthy i wouldnt care if i gave birth on my kitchen floor.

i literally found out 4 hours ago.. and now the shock has sort of subsided, after picking up the test stick and looking at it OVER and OVER again and saying 'fuck, bollocks, shit! im going to be a mummy' im sort of excited yet still terrified. i initially thought 'my life is over, im going to be un attractive and housebound!" yet now im thinking, it's just the beginning and not the end at all. im in the flat on my own all day today, it's giving me far too much time to ponder and pace the rooms.
when will i know if i made the right decision? i can only imagine all the struggles and problems that come with being a parent are then overshadowed by the fact you have created a little human who you are solely responsible for to love and care for, who takes on their own little personality, in parts possibly reflecting my own personality..

i seriously feel like im at the highest point on a rollercoaster, with the option to get out, or enjoy the ride and thrill that becomes of it..

discolexy · #12 10-08-2008, 07:06 AM

well congrats.

you should go to a doctor though and get it properly confirmed

aparody · #13 10-08-2008, 07:25 AM

Well

You already decided you're gonna keep it so you don't have to wrestle with the should i/shouldn't i thing for months

You're in a stable relationship (when are you gonna tell him? You think he's gonna shit bricks?)

(There are probably way better places to get advice for this sort of thing)

Congrats and good luck

trace · #14 10-08-2008, 07:34 AM

kr taught me everything about the birds bees and buttsex

Honey Bee · #15 10-08-2008, 07:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Carly89

you absolute, coldhearted, tosser!
im not asking for the fate of my unborn to be decided am i? im asking for someone to talk to me, a mum, who can give advice on my worries and questions.

You should of mentioned all of this in the first place. It is hard to tell what you are talking about. I thought the same thing as Ronette.

Carly89 · #16 10-08-2008, 08:32 AM

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Originally Posted by aparody

Well

You already decided you're gonna keep it so you don't have to wrestle with the should i/shouldn't i thing for months

You're in a stable relationship (when are you gonna tell him? You think he's gonna shit bricks?)

(There are probably way better places to get advice for this sort of thing)

Congrats and good luck

well it occoured to me last night that my period was late, by like 3 days, and for as long as i can remember my periods have been like clockwork. so i initially rang the alarm bells last night. then the sweetheart got up at 6.30 and drove me to asda to get a test. we got home, i peed, then i emerged from the loo in floods of tears and cuddled him on the sofa. he seems happy about it..

Carly89 · #17 10-08-2008, 08:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Honey Bee

You should of mentioned all of this in the first place. It is hard to tell what you are talking about. I thought the same thing as Ronette.

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i need a kittradio mummy to give me some advice.. thumps? x

ok so i was maybe a bit harsh with what i said, but to be fair my mind is hardly working properly today.. x

discolexy · #18 10-08-2008, 08:35 AM

just curious, were you on birth control

this is no judgement thing i just wanna know like if you were using something and it failed

you know ... what are the chances

Carly89 · #19 10-08-2008, 08:38 AM

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Originally Posted by discolexy

just curious, were you on birth control

this is no judgement thing i just wanna know like if you were using something and it failed

you know ... what are the chances

im not on birth control. i havent lived here that long, and i work funny hours so i havent had time to find a doctors. i hold my hand up and say it's my own fault though..

how's things with you anyway? you manaed to find a job & house? really sucks whats happened. hopefully my job is going to be ok now i have had this little supprise! x